Post # 1
So I’ve been engaged for less than a month but obviously my mind has been wandering to the wedding. Me and the FI have been talking about what we want and hes very easy going and doesnt mind what we do. I have no idea what type of wedding I want though! I have been Googling and sourcing for inspiration and I love the idea of having henna on my hands because I think the tradition is beautiful and it looks amazing. I have also figured out that I find most wedding dresses boring and they all look the same! We dont have a budget yet as we dont have a lot of money but will probably have to take out a small loan depending on if my parents chip in (though Im not counting on it),
I just feel so lost and would much rather spend the money on the honeymoon honestly.
What to do when you have no idea what type of wedding you want?!
Post # 3
I don’t know what state you’re in, but you could start by Googling “elopement packages” or “wedding packages”, just to see what’s available. I search for these packages for fun, so I know that there are great options in almost every state. You could also search for wedding/elopement services. In some places there are businesses who basically bring the wedding to you; they do the cakes, flowers, provide chairs, decor, take the photos and video, and officiate, and you pick the location. Googling “inn wedding packages” or “B and B elopement packages” can also bring up great options.
To find wedding dresses that will suit your personality, you could look at the Neiman Marcus and Nordstrom websites, or visit the stores, because they have a pretty good selection of gowns that aren’t the norm but are affordable and well made. I also suggest BHLDN and ShopRuche.com for dresses, accessories, decor.
Post # 4
I was totally in your spot! I would look at all sorts of venues/themes/etc and have no clue which direction to go into . I asked myself-what is the one thing that is truely important to me? I answered, Everyone that wants to come, will be invited. So that allowed me to look at venues that would fit a large crowd but not have a high minimum if people were not going to come. My FI wanted to be married in our church, so that answered that. We had a few choices of venues when it all came down to it and they were all different. At that time, I had to choose what type of wedding I was going to have. Before that, it was, what can I afford, and what is available. Shop ALL options!
Feel free to message me if I can be of any further help. I totally understand the frustration. You’ll find your way 🙂
Post # 5
Dude…. you want to spend money on honeymoon rather than wedding. Destination wedding/elopement. It’s what we did.
So… now decide where you want to go for your honeymoond and then see if you can have a wedding there.
We got married in Walt Disney World and just stayed there and got our wedding and honeymoon in one trip. My dream wedding in Disney actually saved us money.
Post # 6
We’re having a small wedding and a big honeymoon. Best.Decision.Ever. I would never spend a lot of money on a wedding.
Post # 7
@christyrp: No matter how much or too little you have to spend, IMHO, I think this is a good way to figure out what you want:
Post # 8
- Wedding: September 2015 - Ketchum, ID
@creativeplannertobee: This article really bothered me. I’m not 100% sure why, but I had a hard time reading through it. It’s well written, though, and I’m glad they accomplished what they wanted to do. I think I just get really annoyed when people are against consumerism in that way.
Post # 9
@mrspinesol: I think of it from a point of really zeroing in on what a couple really wants. Of course, this is what THIS couple wanted, but I think the process is what is the “moral of the story”. They made a list of THEIR goals. I think no matter what, any couple can use this method, and come up with their own list to decide what is right for their wedding.
It just happens that this couple’s goals were to fight consumerism and have a reception that was styled more like a family reunion. That is not every couple’s goal of course.
Post # 10
- Wedding: September 2015 - Ketchum, ID
@creativeplannertobee: Yeah, that I understand, and I think it’s a great way to plan a wedding. and I totally understand wanting to save money, or spend more money on the honeymoon, etc. It’s just like my number one pet peeve when people are like “the corporations, man, they’re trying to lie to us and take our money, man. consumerism is the devil, man!” That was exaggeration, but you know what I mean. Consumerism is what makes our economy, and thus our world, go ’round people!! End rant. Thank you for letting me say that, hahaha.
Post # 11
I agree with the other ladies do a destination wedding and make it your honeymoon at the same time. You can find pretty dresses at JCrew or rent a dress at renttherunway.com or jenjenhouse.com. Do homemade invitations (can purchase at Michaels, JoAnns fabrics even staples or office depot). Many places will do a package that includes food, alcohol, band (dj) and a photographer for a decent price. Don’t worry about decorations or flowers since the location (if tropical) will have that already. Good Luck!
Post # 12
Start looking at wedding blogs and Pinterest! They have so many ideas that you can make your own!
Maybe look into a DW that way you can enjoy your honeymoon right after the wedding!