Post # 1
We want a small, outdoor wedding. We picked 10-10-15 as the date. Besides that I have no idea what to do. I never had the wedding fantasies/daydreams as a child. I hate traditional wedding receptions (dj? Kill me now) and would rather have an intimate get together instead of a huge, expensive shindig. But besides that I’m clueless. I live in the okc metro area but I came out here for college almost five years ago and met my fi and decided to stay here after I got done last fall so I’m not very familiar with affordable outdoor venues. This is legitimately stressing me out and part of me just wants to elope but our families (and deep down, me) would be so disappointed. Does anyone have any tips at all for how to get the ball rolling?
Post # 3
@Monicaab: Search online, go to bridal shows and ask anyone you know! Have you considered a destination wedding? It would be perfect for you since you don’t want many people, you may have family/friends that would have to travel to where you live now, and includes much less planning than a “traditional” wedding!
Post # 4
- Wedding: September 2014 - Jacksonville Inn
I have lived in this area for less than 2 years so planning a wedding has been interesting! You have lots of time to explore and see what little hidden gems exist! We decided on a well known inn that has a great reputation for it’s food. We are having an outdoor ceremony and reception but it’s more like a dinner party in the garden. We are having a small wedding and want it to feel like an intimate dinner party, not a big dance party. We aren’t having a dj either, just an Ipod. Once you find a venue and decide on the vibe you are going for you will find that alot of it will fall into place.
Post # 5
I’m in OKC two weeks out of the year, and my FI and I discovered the Museum of Art while there two years ago. The MoA Café has amazing food, and is very pretty inside and out (except for the construction that was going on last year across the street). I have no idea whether they’d let you have a wedding or reception there, but if you like art or want somewhere a tiny bit upscale, it’d be worth at least looking into.
Post # 6
@Monicaab: find a venue. go to weddingwire.com and use their checklist. it saved me a ton of time and stress.
Post # 7
Start with a budget and a rough head count because that will determine everything else. Then you can run your budget through a wedding budget app ti give you a rough idea how much you should pay for everything.( just a rough guide, you can change it up depending on what you want to pay). After that I suggest searching on the internet for nearby wedding venues. You should also decide how much you want to DIY and whether you are ok with renting/bringing everything into a venue (eg if you have a wedding in a park) or whether you want to go for a venue that will do everything for you.
Post # 8
@Monicaab: Make a list of all the different parts of a wedding– dress, accessories, invitations, men’s clothes, flowers, photographer, venue, food, etc. Everything you can think of. Then from that list make a list of your 10 most important things. From that pick your top 5. From that, pick your top 3. Use that top 3 to guide your choices. When you have tough decisions to make about whether to do this or that use the list to remember what your priorities were.
To find some good ideas on non-traditional weddings, go to A Practical Wedding website. There are lots of good articles about the kind of weddings you like. Also she put out a great book to help you make decisions that work for you and how to stand by them.
Make the wedding look any way you want. If you dont want dancing, then dont (have a lunch wedding). Dont let the outside world dictate how it should look.
Post # 9
Just wanted to say great date 🙂 And hugs, I definitely get it! We eloped just the two of us and I have no regrets!
Post # 10
Thanks for all the advice. I really like the idea of a dinner party type of wedding. That’s basically exactly what I want. I was thinking of having some board games and music and fi is going to brew some special wedding beers (he’s really into brewing). I just want something small and intimate that is about us coming together as two families and not some big flashy nightmare. I’m not even buying a new wedding dress because I love the look of vintage dresses.
Post # 11
- Wedding: July 2012 - Baltimore Museum of Industry
One of my girlfriends advised me- “wedding planning is like learning to drive a car. At first, it’s so overwhelming- “how am I ever going to do this?” Just take baby steps, and it’ll work.”
Venue, guest list, budget- those three are importantages in your early planning. And initial guest list should come first- if you decide you really want to invite 75 people vs 25, it’ll greatly impact both your venue and budget.
Post # 12
@Monicaab: Hate traditional weddings? Look at some non-traditional sites for inspiration. Offbeat Bride and A Practical Wedding are good starts.
Just remember, a wedding is just a party with some vows!! You can plan a party, right??
Post # 13
Well.. I go to other peoples parties but I’ve never planned my own lol. Never was a fan of the attention and don’t bother with my birthday much. I’m honestly more worried about everyone else having a good time.. but I would also rather save money for a honeymoon than blow it all on wedding stuff for one day.
Post # 14
I’ve never planned a wedding so I can’t help you there, but I’ve lived in the OKC metro area for the last 6-7 years. One of my friends is getting married this spring at the Will Rogers Garden’s Charles E. Sparks Rose Garden in NW OKC. She said it was very affordable. She isn’t going to have a traditional reception, but she is having a BBQ in one of the picnic shelters.
Also, I’ve heard of people getting married at Reaves park.
Post # 15
@Monicaab: Join theknot.com. Use the checklist, it’s super helpful! You can just check things off that you don’t want and it will narrow it down for you.
Post # 16
I would start by picking by making a budget, guest list & overall theme for your wedding.
Do you want a sleep/modern wedding? Intimate/romantic? Rustic/vintage?
Are you wanting a morning wedding, evening, or all night affair?
Once you answer these questions you can start looking and venues.. having in mind what kind of theme you will can help narrow down your venue options.
Once you find a venue you love and book it, everything becomes MUCH easier!