(Closed) I have no real girlfriends… :(

posted 5 years ago in Relationships
Post # 3
Hostess
7561 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: January 2013

The only thing wrong with you being close with your FI/family is that you feel bad about it. Some of us are close with our families, others are closer with friends. If you feel like something is missing, why don’t you try to make new friends by hanging out with coworkers, taking a class or finding events in your area? 

Post # 4
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

Going back to my teenager’s years, i would never believe i would find myself not surrounded by friends. I was the first one to leave for University, far away and stayed there for 5 years, only returning on occasional weekend and holidays. Meanwhile, they contined together, met new people..not me. I did make good friends here and there but i was always the one far away somehow..nowadays, we all have our busy lives and we don’t meet..ever! It’s sad, but i do not have anyone on a daily basis to go and have a coffee with. Sure, i have a lot of social time in my work, so i can say i feel isolated! Also i have a wonderful family. But sometimes i wish i had one of my friends closer. I miss the girly talk..i don’t go out for a girls’ night, we don’t have picnics or dine on a friend’s house once in awhile and that’s too bad.

So what i mean is..you are NOT alone! Laughing

Post # 5
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2012 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

i have 1 friend, thats it, just one.

Post # 6
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1037 posts
Bumble bee

You’re not alone in this.  I reached the grand old age of 34 last weekend and I only have two real friends.  These girls I only met through work (a place I have now left) in February this year.  I had a birthday meal at the weekend and out of the 15 people there were only two were proper friends of mine…..the rest were my husbands friends and girlfriends (all of which are lovely people).  My mum and husband are my best friends and the only people I turn to when in a crisis.  The other two, ex workmates, are a welcome addition.  You’re not unusual in this I promise you. 

Post # 7
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: February 2013

Oh I totally know the feeling, I kid you not I moved away 9 years ago to be with my partner and to this day I don’t have a single friend, it’s annoying, lonely and sometimes depressing, my mum is and always will be my best friend. Trying to plan a wedding and all myrelatives are in Scotland, your lucky you get on with your inlaws my fellas sister just doesn’t like me. His mother is very helpfuL she just isn’t around a lot, I guess if I was out working I’d make friends but due to my disability I don’t go out side the door! Sure is a lonely life at times, but my partner is the same he just joined a band so that gets him out for a bit and gives him a break from taking care of me and the kids. Outwith my mum, my h2b is my friend x

Post # 8
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Busy bee

Its not weird. I think its harder to meet new people as you get older, and its easier to let old relationships die. For myself, I moved to NYC without knowing ANYONE. Everyone I met at work already had their friends, and I found it hard to meet anyone new. At this time, I have 2 good friends, and my SO who is my BF. Just know that you are not the only one with a huge circle of friends….AND THATS OK!! 🙂

Post # 9
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

My best friends are my sisters (I have 4!) and my mom. I couldn’t ask for better friends, but they all live about 2 hours away and so sometimes I do feel a little lonely. And everyone I work with is like 20 years older then me so I am kind of stuck. But I feel your pain, sometimes you just want someone to call up for a drink on a crappy day.

Post # 10
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2012

I know how you feel.. I’ve been through so many girlfriends through the years.. and only 1 has been in my life for almost 20 years.  My other close friend and I talk I’d say maybe once a week, but we live so far apart and have such different lives it’s hard to see eachother. 

I occasionally go out with work friends from the other school I used to teach at, but that’s so random. 

My husband and my mom are my true best friends. 

Post # 11
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687 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2016

I don’t have any female close friends at all, I have guy friends, but they are also’s FI’s friends. I am a loner, and always will be. I moved to Dublin without knowing a soul, only moved for my job. I found people at work, but I’ve never clicked friendship wise with any of them. It’s okay to not have girlfriends, and be loner and love that. It’s perfectly okay! 

Post # 12
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Blushing bee

My SO occasionally asks me who I’m going to have for a bridesmaid. I respond that I’m going to put our friend Sean in a dress and see how many people I can convince that he’s my female friend “Shauna.” 😛

Yeah, I’ve got one good girlfriend that moved away recently, and while I would love to be optimistic, I’m not sure how close we’ll be in a couple years. All my other friends are guys, and they are mostly closer to my SO than me.

Post # 13
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 2013 - St. Augustine Beach, FL

No substantial friends here either.  I was never very good at having friends growing up but I did have a few at school and college.  Now that I am out in the world so to speak we all have our own lives and we let those friendships fall by the wayside.  I figure when we settle down and have kids we will have more friends because it seems like we would have more time and energy to be friendly with other parents and neighbors.

Post # 14
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292 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2015

Your not alone. I used to be surrounded by friends in grade school, but never really stayed friends with the same people each school year. I went away to college and all my friends stayed back home and we all kind of lost touch and I don’t even have any contact with them anymore. I didn’t care at the time because I had all my friends at college who were like a second family. When college was over though we all went our separate ways and now the only friend I have left is my SO. I moved to his town with him and I really still havent made any new friends yet I’ve been here for 3 years. MOst of the friends that I do have are all SO’s friends and they are all guys. It really does suck cause I miss having a girlfriend to talk about everything with.

Post # 15
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: February 2014

I’m the same. I moved around constantly with my family so all my friendships were short lived. Then I took a very male-centric degree in university so same thing there. I’m also not a super girly girl so I just don’t find it easy to make girl friends. I really wish I did so I could have a whole bunch of bridesmaids and the girly wedding stuff, but I guess I just can’t…

Post # 16
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

I’m with you. My best friend moved to another state and my other friends are married with kids. I had a close friend, but when I met my FI, she seemed kinda jealous and we drifted apart. She kept finding excuses not to like or get along with him. I have two best guy friends. I’m actually making my guy friend, my Man of Honor. lol

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