(Closed) I have *so much to do* that I can’t do anything…

posted 7 years ago in Beehive
Post # 3
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1260 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

Oyster, I’m right here with you! I am 16 days out, and each day just feels like the list gets longer! I am also not working right now (my new job doesn’t start until August). I say set mini goals for you to do each day, and if you can just get those done, you will feel like you have accomplished something. Take time to rest too!

Post # 4
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1260 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

Oh, and if you can swing it budget wise, go get a massage at the spa – that saved my life during this last month 🙂

Post # 5
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

I’m just 9 days away, and I’ve been breaking my list down into things like: “what absolutely needs to get done right away”, “what can wait a little while”, and “if we don’t get to it – we don’t get to it”. It makes things a little less daunting! 🙂

Also recruit some help! That’s what MOH, bridesmaids, etc are for! 🙂 My mom and sister are taking on some bigger things I just don’t really care about, or are too stressed to think about.

Post # 6
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

I agree.  I was so stressed out by my to-do list that finally I typed every single thing I could think of that needed to be done before the wedding in a loooong email.  Then at the beginning of the week I would take five little things from the list and put them on each day.  Things like “research veils” or “order cocktail napkins online” aren’t too bad.  Once I did, I found i could stop worrying about EVERYTHING and just worry about the day in front of me.  And of course, if you don’t finish everything, it just rolls to a later day but it feels so good to cross things off the list!  ALso comforting to have a place to put those little details that wake you up in the night.  “Get markers for guest book.”  “Find cuff links.”  etc.  I’m a week out and while I can’t say that this method actually made the process a cakewalk, at least it made it possible to work and plan a wedding at the same time.  Good luck!!

Post # 7
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

We’re four months out and I keep looking at my to-do list and it’s stressing me out a bit as well.  I just have NO motivation to work on things when I get home from the gym after work, so my work time is the weekend =/.  Plus I just volunteered myself to help a friend who’s wedding is a month away, by designing all of her paper things for the day (programs, menus, table numbers, etc.).  I think I just don’t have a problem working on other people’s things lol

Post # 8
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4001 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

I had my moments where that happened.  Eventually you get to a point where you know you have no more time to procrastinate.  There are a few things I was overly ambitious with… those ended up not getting done.  But the important things will be done, just start a lil bit (more than you’ve been doing) at a time and eventually you’ll be good to go!

Post # 9
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

I think if you can find the energy/motivation to do it, make a big chart with everything to do , on it. I’d include all the stuff you’ve already done. It’s lovely to see a list with lots of ‘done’ ticks on it. Then do as Mthdgirl says, and do some bit of something every day. You’ll get there!

Also, re the tiredness, maybe you need an iron supplement or something? Just worth keeping an eye on.

Post # 10
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

i’m three months out and i’ve definitely made it a priority to cut my original list in half. (DIY – related)

i started out with a lot of great DIY ideas, esp from the ‘bee of course, but as my schedule got overloaded with work and school… i realized that i had to make decisions on what to keep and what not to attempt due to time constraints.

i’m really nervous about doing the table arrangements/place cards. once that is done in august, i’m going to breath easy and let everything else go (as far as incomplete DIY projects).

 

Post # 10
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

i’m three months out and i’ve definitely made it a priority to cut my original list in half. (DIY – related)

i started out with a lot of great DIY ideas, esp from the ‘bee of course, but as my schedule got overloaded with work and school… i realized that i had to make decisions on what to keep and what not to attempt due to time constraints.

i’m really nervous about doing the table arrangements/place cards. once that is done in august, i’m going to breath easy and let everything else go (as far as incomplete DIY projects).

 

Post # 11
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

I totally feel your pain!

Divide and conquer: look at your to do list and divide by what NEEDS to be done today, tomorrow, the next day etc. and then tackle it in small chunks.

Good luck! I’m sure everything will turn out beautifully.

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