I have some thoughts about appetizers.

posted 3 years ago in Food
Post # 2
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

208bride: how much wine?

hope you feel better

Post # 3
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2012

I’m just confused here…

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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2015

208bride:  I’ve never understood appetizers either in terms of the ‘but I MUST ENCOMPASS EVERYONE ELSE’S WANTS AND WISHES’. FWIW, I love the appetizer selection you mentioned. As a Wisconsinite, I am required to lurve cheese. But yes, sometimes in my opinion, people can be very picky about things that in all reality shouldn’t matter that much. 

 

Perhaps you should have had some appetizers with your wine? 😉

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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: October 2014

When you’re hosting a party, you’re supposed to be taking your guests’ tastes into consideration, and you’re supposed to be celebrating your special occasion with not-everyday foods. That is why appetizers get a lot of attention. A good selection of ingredients ensures guests have plenty of choice and that they don’t get bored with 4 things that taste exactly like each other. You entertain people through the food choices you serve. That is why you should care.

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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: December 2014

julies1949:  LOL

this may be more funny Bc I’m working on my own wine

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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: December 2014

FWIW, our apperizer choices are so fancy.. I’d be so happy with cheese sticks and curly fries if I could LOL

Post # 11
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: October 2014

Fancy food can be delicious. I’m not sure why so many bees think fancy food has to be boring and gross? Anyway people in general tend to be more adventurous with what they order as appetizers than entrees because an appetizer isn’t an everyday item, so they want something a little special and out-of-the-ordinary, and they’re okay to take a little risk or get outside their comfort zone because it’s just a small bite. If they don’t like it, they only have a little bit to get through and they’ve got an entree/main course coming later, so they won’t starve if they try something new and it isn’t to their tastes. But it’s mostly because people don’t have appetizers every day at home that you want to serve something special. What good is a little extra treat if it’s just a tiny version of the same thing you eat every day?

Post # 12
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

 

208bride:  Let’s refer to @Horseradish:  ‘s point:

<div style=”text-align: left; background-color: #ffffff; color: #000000; overflow: hidden; text-decoration: none;”>When you’re hosting a party, you’re supposed to be taking your guests’ tastes into consideration, and you’re supposed to be celebrating your special occasion with not-everyday foods. That is why appetizers get a lot of attention. A good selection of ingredients ensures guests have plenty of choice and that they don’t get bored with 4 things that taste exactly like each other. You entertain people through the food choices you serve. That is why you should care.<br /><br />Read more: http://boards.weddingbee.com/topic/i-have-some-thoughts-about-appetizers/#ixzz2zxahkrBr</div>

From reading WB and other blogs closely, I was very sensitive to the opinions of those from after attending weddings, and tried to apply them.  In the weeks leading up to the wedding, I added two hors d’oeuvres to the offered list of two others.  While all the attendees were kind and complimentary about the overall event, believe I gleaned a few hints as to the things that could have been done better.  The most common “oops” comment was about how hungry the person(s) was after the ceremony and before dinner.  

While you and your closest are getting ready, so are your guests.   Then, often, while you’re right there at the site, they have to get in a car and travel. Then, they sit in an uncomfortable chapel or ceremony chair, usually with not so much as a drink of water, waiting for the ceremony to start. Then, after an average 20-minute ceremony, they ,move on to the reception, in hopes of at least a refreshment and a few bites to eat.

Do your best to feed your guests.   They’ve travelled, gotten dressed and ready, sat around in a strange hotel room, not knowing where the closest McDs or grocery store is.  Offer them more than stale cheese and crackers.  Really.

 

ETA: The new formatting sucks, sorry.

  • This reply was modified 2 years, 7 months ago by  KBScarlett.
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: December 2014

208bride:  if fancy appetizers aren’t your thing then don’t do it. 

its your day. That simple. If you want to have mini cheese burgers and quesadillas do it!!! There are plenty of guests who would be super excited for that. Myself included!

Post # 15
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: November 2014

208bride:  I don’t think appetizers need to be fancy. However, I think as a host, variety is important for your guests- especially ones with dietary restrictions. In your case, someone lactose intolerant wouldn’t be able to eat your appetizers. I know I have guests who are vegetarian, pescatarian, allergic to peanuts, allergic to gluten, allergic to gluten, etc. So I will try to have something everyone can eat. I was at a wedding where a guest fainted during cocktail hour and the ambulance had to come because she hadn’t eaten (she skipped lunch because she was getting ready for the wedding). Though I think having people not get super drunk is another great reason to have appetizers! At the end of the day, you can do whatever you want. Keep in mind, the bees don’t know you, maybe your guests love cheese too! I wouldn’t let what complete strangers say online bother you.

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