Post # 1
For about three months, I have been doing good about not thinking about my future wedding. Havent really been looking at wedding stuff, no trips to Hobby Lobby just to get ideas for decorations but now the wedding bug has somehow bit me and I have the wedding fever all over again. I suddenly want to make the guest list, get an idea of what the STD’s are going to look like, purchase them if I had the money, I have the sudden urge to go to Hobby Lobby to “buy” wedding stuff. I keep on thinking that I can buy the nessesaries for now, guest book, champagne flukes, cake cutters, sand ceremony set, the sand to go with it, flower girl basket, ring pillow. I want to call vendors and get prices and I dont plan on having my wedding till 2016! Im driving myself crazy……HELP?!?!?
Post # 3
I started doing this when I first got engaged knowing full well that my wedding was about 3 years away.
The best thing I did was force myself to close the websites, stopped searching for things (even though I was very tempted) and tried to shut it out of my mind. I took a book and wrote all of my ideas for the wedding and had it in my bag non stop for weeks. Eventually I just stopped – I had no urge to write things down again.
It is strange, now that I am actually wedding planning I looked back at the book and I hate my ideas and I am glad I didn’t commit to anything too soon.
Try to get it out of your system without actually spending any money – you’ll get through this eventually.
Post # 4
@Mine29: …plan a party instead…pick a holiday, make one up…have everyone dress up like the spokespeople on food packages and bring a dish incorporating it to share, you’ll have Swiss Miss, The Rabbit from Trix and even Paul Newman….you can have an obstacle course, door prizes and even a secret word, where if anyone says it…the entire party screams…
whatever…just do something that isn’t wedding.
Post # 5
@Mine29: I would say stick with Pintrest and pin some ideas, and look at the recaps section here to get some ideas…that’s what I do lol!!
However, since my wedding might not be until 2015 (at earliest) 2016 (realistically) or 2017 (At latest LOL)….I’ve decided to wait a bit on buying things. I bet 3 years ago no one saw the great gatsby/flapper wedding themes being big, and I’ve somewhat decided that I want to do something WAY different than the weddings we’ve been apart of, so I’m wanting a trendy wedding!!!
Post # 6
I think the reason behind me getting the wedding fever was bc I recently seen on facebook that one of my friends got engaged which automatically made me think that she was going to be wedding planning soon so I started doing some wedding searching.
That actually happened to me about purchasing something that I ended up hating. I ended up purchasing some dark blue crystal garland that I planned on using for a wishing tree that I want to put in my wedding. At the time I wanted my colors to be dark blue and purple. I purchased them off of a website, did the checkout, entered in all my payment info and shipping. I wanted my things to be shipped to my dads house bc of the fact that I trust my dads area more than mine. Lucky the order didnt go through bc they wouldnt allow me to have a different billing adress and shipping adress, so I just cancelled the order. Im so glad I did bc I definately do not want my wedding colors to be dark blue! I would of been stuck with dark blue crystal garland and $10 down the drain.
Post # 7
I went through the SAME thing. I sent a few emails to vendors asking for quotes, and I picked out colors and looked at “minor” detailed stuff, guest book, favors, that sort of thing. I kept telling myself that It will help, half of everything will be planned and picked and how smooth it will be the closer the big day gets..
Just remember, Sometimes visions change, sometimes “themes” change sometimes guests lists swell or they crumble, venues no longer work… your FI might have a few changes he wants to make too and if you go ahead and buy that red ring pillow only to find out you don’t want any red in your wedding you might regret it… It might sound silly but keep a blog or pinterest page of all these things, write a list of what you like and where from and keep it safe. Quotes from vendors will likely change by 2016.
I have to agree with PP’s, Do something else, Don’t comit to anything. now that I actually AM planning my within a year wedding, I find myself hating most of what I previously thought i’d like, and kind of regret wasting all that time.
You will get past this, Don’t worry!
Post # 8
Don’t do it. If your boyfriend finds out, he’ll probably think you’re a bit nuts. Also, things change… what you like now might not fit into your ceremony at ALL. Or it may get broken or tarnish (silver or cheap metal stuff) etc etc.
Also.. try to get some perspective. It’s a one day event. If you’re already going crazy over it, you’ll be devastated once it’s done.. or if one teeny thing goes wrong. It’s about marrying the guy… not the big party IMO. Nothing wrong with planning something you can afford, but it’s a bit soon.
Stick to Pinterest… don’t buy anything.
If you want to be smart about it, start a savings account for wedding expenses.
Post # 9
@Mine29: hahaha I was the exact same way don’t worry it’s normal as long as you don’t set anything in stone doing your research is a great thing because you can see where the better deals are and save yourself some serious money.
Post # 10
@Theonetime: Thanks, I know your right. I have thought and thought about my wedding and changed my mind so many times, its not even funny. If I was to purchased something thats themed then I would regret it, I know I would.
Post # 11
@canarydiamond: +1 to starting a savings account!
@Mine29: I started a savings account–I started to realize how much a destination wedding will be, and my ideas, no matter how DIY I go, will still cost $$. I’ve opened a savings account and SO knows about it.
Having the account has calmed me down a lot because I’m not rich at all, and I am also working on building up my emergency savings Saving up is sooooo slow moving that THIS is why I’ve become so zen about waiting until 2016 or 2017….The longer we wait, the better off we will be money wise!
Post # 12
@veryberry13: I need to have a savings account, just in general.
And I have realized that the longer we wait like till 2016, the more options we will have for our wedding bc we will have more money and my SO and I will be done with college by then, not sure if we will have jobs but we dont plan on leaving the jobs we have now until we get done with college and get jobs with our degrees. The jobs we have now, we make enough to live off of if we were to move in together so no big problem there, it would be nice though to get a job right after college, we would be living more comfortably, I know that much.
Post # 13
I know the feeling. Every so often I get like this too. It’s pretty hard to resist, but as others have said, just focus on Pinterest and virtual wedding planning. I don’t even know where I would be without my secret wedding pin boards.
Post # 14
@Mine29: I had a pinterest board and I did start just a list of who I would invite. Kept both to myself and continued on waiting. My wedding theme has changed since I actually started booking venue/ vendors and I’m glad I didn’t purchase anything from that phase. Plus, that just goes one step into REAL crazy versus what I like to call “virtual crazy.”
Post # 15
@Mine29: Like you said about the purchase that you made that you hate now. Things go out of style and your mind will change endlessly until then.
I actually started saving pictures of how I want my wedding dress to be for a couple years now, and I don’t even like the same dresses I used to.
Definitely think about that purchase anytime you think you want to buy something. Don’t do it!
Post # 16
A savings account has helped me so much! I wrote everything down that I could ever possibly want (and prices of them, which may change, but thats okay) for a wedding and thats the number I will try to save. It keeps me grounded and helps me realize that I dont want to rush it. He will propose on his own time, and when he does i’ll have enough money saved to get the ball rolling. I also buy a bridal magazine whenever I get the bug. I read it on my own time, and that normally holds me over for a little while 🙂