I have the wedding fever again and its bad……

posted 3 years ago in Waiting
Post # 3
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525 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

I started doing this when I first got engaged knowing full well that my wedding was about 3 years away.

The best thing I did was force myself to close the websites, stopped searching for things (even though I was very tempted) and tried to shut it out of my mind. I took a book and wrote all of my ideas for the wedding and had it in my bag non stop for weeks. Eventually I just stopped – I had no urge to write things down again.

It is strange, now that I am actually wedding planning I looked back at the book and I hate my ideas and I am glad I didn’t commit to anything too soon.

Try to get it out of your system without actually spending any money – you’ll get through this eventually.

Post # 4
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5932 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: April 2018

@Mine29:  …plan a party instead…pick a holiday, make one up…have everyone dress up like the spokespeople on food packages and bring a dish incorporating it to share, you’ll have Swiss Miss, The Rabbit from Trix and even Paul Newman….you can have an obstacle course, door prizes and even a secret word, where if anyone says it…the entire party screams…

whatever…just do something that isn’t wedding.

Post # 5
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2052 posts
Buzzing bee

@Mine29:  I would say stick with Pintrest and pin some ideas, and look at the recaps section here to get some ideas…that’s what I do lol!!

However, since my wedding might not be until 2015 (at earliest) 2016 (realistically) or 2017 (At latest LOL)….I’ve decided to wait a bit on buying things.  I bet 3 years ago no one saw the great gatsby/flapper wedding themes being big, and I’ve somewhat decided that I want to do something WAY different than the weddings we’ve been apart of, so I’m wanting a trendy wedding!!!

Post # 7
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112 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: July 2014

 I went through the SAME thing. I sent a few emails to vendors asking for quotes, and I picked out colors and looked at “minor” detailed stuff, guest book, favors, that sort of thing. I kept telling myself that It will help, half of everything will be planned and picked and how smooth it will be the closer the big day gets..

It won’t.

 Just remember, Sometimes visions change, sometimes “themes” change sometimes guests lists swell or they crumble, venues no longer work… your FI might have a few changes he wants to make too and if you go ahead and buy that red ring pillow only to find out you don’t want any red in your wedding you might regret it… It might sound silly but keep a blog or pinterest page of all these things, write a list of what you like and where from and keep it safe. Quotes from vendors will likely change by 2016.

I have to agree with PP’s, Do something else, Don’t comit to anything. now that I actually AM planning my within a year wedding, I find myself hating most of what I previously thought i’d like, and kind of regret wasting all that time.

You will get past this, Don’t worry!

Post # 8
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7997 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2013

Don’t do it. If your boyfriend finds out, he’ll probably think you’re a bit nuts. Also, things change… what you like now might not fit into your ceremony at ALL. Or it may get broken or tarnish (silver or cheap metal stuff) etc etc.

Also.. try to get some perspective. It’s a one day event. If you’re already going crazy over it, you’ll be devastated once it’s done.. or if one teeny thing goes wrong. It’s about marrying the guy… not the big party IMO. Nothing wrong with planning something you can afford, but it’s a bit soon.

Stick to Pinterest… don’t buy anything.

If you want to be smart about it, start a savings account for wedding expenses.

Post # 9
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3514 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: March 2014

@Mine29:  hahaha I was the exact same way don’t worry it’s normal as long as you don’t set anything in stone doing your research is a great thing because you can see where the better deals are and save yourself some serious money.

Post # 11
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2052 posts
Buzzing bee

@canarydiamond:  +1 to starting a savings account!

@Mine29: I started a savings account–I started to realize how much a destination wedding will be, and my ideas, no matter how DIY I go, will still cost $$.  I’ve opened a savings account and SO knows about it.

Having the account has calmed me down a lot because I’m not rich at all, and I am also working on building up my emergency savings UndecidedSaving up is sooooo slow moving that THIS is why I’ve become so zen about waiting until 2016 or 2017….The longer we wait, the better off we will be money wise! 

Post # 13
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2125 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2015

I know the feeling. Every so often I get like this too. It’s pretty hard to resist, but as others have said, just focus on Pinterest and virtual wedding planning. I don’t even know where I would be without my secret wedding pin boards. 

Post # 14
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1896 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: March 2014

@Mine29:  I had a pinterest board and I did start just a list of who I would invite. Kept both to myself and continued on waiting.  My wedding theme has changed since I actually started booking venue/ vendors and I’m glad I didn’t purchase anything from that phase. Plus, that just goes one step into REAL crazy versus what I like to call “virtual crazy.” 

Post # 15
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2125 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2015

@Mine29:  Like you said about the purchase that you made that you hate now. Things go out of style and your mind will change endlessly until then.

I actually started saving pictures of how I want my wedding dress to be for a couple years now, and I don’t even like the same dresses I used to. 

Definitely think about that purchase anytime you think you want to buy something. Don’t do it!

 

Post # 16
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662 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2015

A savings account has helped me so much! I wrote everything down that I could ever possibly want (and prices of them, which may change, but thats okay) for a wedding and thats the number I will try to save. It keeps me grounded and helps me realize that I dont want to rush it. He will propose on his own time, and when he does i’ll have enough money saved to get the ball rolling. I also buy a bridal magazine whenever I get the bug. I read it on my own time, and that normally holds me over for a little while 🙂

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