I have three father figures and need an opinion!!!

posted 3 years ago in Ceremony
Post # 3
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

kearstin.morgann:  I think the idea of being escorted by your brother is a great idea as it avoids picking one of them over the other.

When the officiant asks “Who gives this woman…” I would have all three of them stand up and say””We all do”.

I wouldn’t pick just one for the father daughter dance, unless you know you can do it without hurt feelings. I would dance with all three of them in one song.

Post # 4
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: March 2014

kearstin.morgann:  I think it’s perfect to have your brother give you away but as far as the dance I think it would be nice for you to switch them out. Like dance with each of them for like a 1 minute and whatever seconds depending on the length of the song.

Post # 6
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Newbee
  • Wedding: Silver Shores Waterfront

kearstin.morgann:  

I have been waiting for a post like this! I also have 3 father figures. My biological dad is more in the picture than he was when i was a baby. My mom got remarried when i was 7 and he is in my life. And my mom got remarried again when i was 15. I have ALWAYS been torn about what to do at my wedding!! 

Post # 9
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2014

You’re lucky.  I’m stranged from my bio father and my mother never re-married.  I’ve never had a grandfather.  I’ve decided to do away with the whole issue of having someone walk me down the aisle.  My FI and I are going to walk down the aisle together.

I really like the idea of having your younger brother walk you down the aisle 🙂

Post # 10
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: June 2016 - Poulsbo, WA

@jennie.elliott2 : My parents walked down the aisle together! My mom’s parents divorced when she was a young child, and she was not close with her father. Her mother remarried, but my mom hadn’t built much of a relationship with her stepfather. They wanted to walk into marriage hand in hand, and I think it sent a really nice message. It was perfect for their situation.

Post # 11
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: December 2014 - 13th ~ TN

netter.spagetter16:  kearstin.morgann:  I am looking forward to seeing what you do in the future to keep in the back of the mind for when my 10 year old daughter gets married, many, many years from now.

She too, has 3 father figures. Her situation is a little different, but she still has 3. She has her dad and his partner and of course my FI. I have always thought that her dad would just give her away, but knowing her she will want to include the other two as well.

Post # 12
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Newbee
  • Wedding: Silver Shores Waterfront

@Mrs.UPS

Yes that is where i am at my crossroads. I really want to include all 3 of them in. I am recently engaged so I have been thinking more and more about it. And still dont know what to do.

 

My future sister in law says to just have my dad walk me and leave it at that. But it is more difficult that just that. 

Post # 13
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2015

you can also trade off during the father daughter dance… like have set times  in the song where each one comes in and they do a formal trade off on the dance floor

Post # 14
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Newbee
  • Wedding: Silver Shores Waterfront

For the ceremony I think I might have my mom walk me down   the aisle. I really like the song “Mamas Song”, have them play that while we walk down. I like the idea of all three dads saying they all give me away, when that part comes. And dance with all three of them for the daddy daughter song, split the song up… 

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