- 6 years ago
- Wedding: August 2012
I’m heartbroken. I’m frustrated. I want to scream. AHHHHHH (<—that was as close to a scream as I can do because people are in the house right now).
I just lost my job today. It’s not like I had a ton of extra money to put towards my wedding to begin with, but now that I lost my job…I won’t have anything! There’s no way I can pay for it. Money was already a serious issue before this. UGH! I’m totally devastated.
I really really want to not speak to Fiance for the next 2 weeks, but I know I’m not going to do that. I am so mad. I just don’t think I’m going to have anything nice to say and I don’t like that either. Here’s what happened. We work for the same company, but we don’t work together, or even near each other. However, he wanted a job in my program and decided to talk to the higher ups a few weeks ago (of course, without even telling me about it!). She told him she doesn’t want it to become a problem with us working so close and me being above him, but that she trusted us to make it work. He told her he didn’t want to work with me and that I had actually been thinking about changing positions or quitting (yes, that’s right…he spoke for me and I had no idea) so it wouldn’t be a problem at all. Of course, boss lady sets up a meeting with me to talk about my issues with my current position and I say I have none. I really do though…I really really do. She then lets me know that she’s moving me to a different site because she thinks it’ll be best for me and even better for the site. Moving me would allow Fiance (who’s not even kinda qualified, in all honesty) to take my job and an upset co-worker of mine to take his. He’d make more than double in my program that what he was previously making. It would also allow an upset co-worker to change positions and take the other co-workers spot and I take hers (confusing, I know). The only thing is that 3 people asked to be moved around, not me! I let her know I’m honored (it’s a slight promotion) blah blah blah but that I couldn’t accept. She wanted my reasons and I gave her my honest opinion. In this case I was what we call a ‘whistle blower.’ I turned it down due to illegal actions, etc and I let her know that, in great detail, with proof. I work as a behavior therapist with autistic kiddos, so I feel my reasons were really valid and can really change peoples’ lives, for the worst, I don’t want to be a part of that…money issues, care issues, abuse, etc. Just FYI, I have filed complaints with the my company and the state as to the care of the kiddos, so I didn’t just stand back and do nothing. At the end of work I was given a letter letting me know I had been fired due to lack of compliance with transition. WTF?!!? Now, I’m part of a union and I’m sure I’m protected under whistle blower laws, but STILL I can’t afford this! Every one keeps telling me to calm down. Seriously? How can I calm down? I GOT FIRED! :/ I know, unemployment will pay my bills, the union will work it out, I can take legal action and be okay, etc. But that doesn’t help me TODAY. My next pay check will not be my salary, I don’t even know when I’ll get one. I’m sure this will all be okay, one day, but not now. It’s going to take a while to sort through this and in the mean time I can’t afford to not have my full salary. Not to mention, I don’t actually want my job back, especially after this, it’d just be nice to know what to expect on my paycheck and for it to be enough. Oh and to add fuel to the flame, Fiance went to boss lady, after I got fired, and told her he didn’t want the job anymore and that he didn’t realize he wasn’t qualified and that he and his co-workers make a great team so he didn’t want to leave them stranded.
My Future In-Laws just bought us a house. Yay us! Not really. This is another thing I’m not super happy with Fiance about. He asked them to buy it after I said I didn’t want it and that if he felt he absolutely must use his parents money I suggested a way in which I’d feel more comfortable. Of course, he completely ignored what I had to say and asked them anyways. I’m grateful don’t get me wrong, and that’s a HUGE thing we don’t need to worry about, but there’s some stuff going on with that creating some issues. Since they bought the house they can’t afford to help with the wedding. Which I totally understand. But when we sent out deposits and planned everything they had said they’d give us $X and now not having it is a big deal. I know…I know…I’m grateful for the house people! But I can still be bummed they’re not contributing what I expected them to so please don’t give me crap for saying that.
Aside from making plans and sending out deposits based on what Future In-Laws said they were contributing, we also did that based on what Fiance said he could contribute. Then last week, he told me what he’s doing with that money instead so he will not be contributing. GRRRR. WTF?! I’m so upset!
I still haven’t contacted our vendors or reread contracts, but I know they all said deposit isn’t refundable. So on top of having to cancel the wedding because of finances, I’m still going to lose the money I’ve already paid. ugh! We’ve already sent out Save-The-Date Cards :/ I’m just so frustrated and upset and sad! I don’t know what to do. I know a wedding isn’t everything but it’s still okay that I feel this way, right?
And seriously, no one rag on me for being bummed Future In-Laws aren’t contributing to the wedding because of the house. Like I said, there are issues concerning that and I didn’t go into detail.