(Closed) I have to do WHAT!?!?

posted 5 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
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2695 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2015

The food doesn’t bother me, but tipping is stupid to me. I’m already paying you! The only people that should get a tip should be the wait staff, since I’m paying for the food, not them.

Post # 4
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

Ask your caterer about vendor meals. They will often provide something different and cheaper *such as sandwiches, etc) or give you a deal on those meals because they are vendor meals.

Post # 5
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11234 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2013

Um…

Would you work an 8+ hour day and be okay with not being fed?

Post # 6
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11753 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

your caterer/venue should have vendor meals that will be cheaper than the guest meals. 

Post # 7
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14311 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

Yup, most places should do a vendor meal for probably half off or more.  Ours did the main dish, with no salad/apps/etc for $20 or something like that.

Post # 8
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

Also, check the contract.  I read it after, but our photographers contract explictly said that if a meal is not provided, they are entitled to an hour off during your recpetion to go get food and will not be available to take picturs.  Definitely dont want that happening!

Post # 9
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9917 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2013

@vorpalette:  I work an eight hour day five times a week and never expect to be fed…

Post # 10
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Bumble bee

All vendors need to be tipped. For example, if your photographer owns their own business (i.e. doesn’t work for someone else) you are not required to tip them.  Serving staff on the other hand, should be tipped.

As for meals, I think for those few vendors that will be spending their entire day with you (such as photographer) it’s only the right thing to do. I would rather a happy, well fed photographer, than a hungry grouchy one.  If your DJ doesn’t start until after the meal, no need to feed him. He probably slipped out and ate while the guests and WP were eating.  

It never hurts to ask though. 

I figure the more I do for my vendors to make them comfortable and happy, the more they’ll do for me.  And keep in mind, when it comes to photographers, their work isn’t done when the wedding is over.  

Post # 11
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4803 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

@vorpalette:  Right? Feeding people who work hard for you all day seems like the human thing to do. And the DJ’s music choices and photographer’s photos are probably going to get pretty bad if their stomach is growling.

Post # 12
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1086 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

Yeah I’m sorry btu I think it’s a HUGE rip off for this. I don’t expect my job to feed me, I feed myself. But that’s fine I’ll feed them but why tip someone you are already giving $3,000 to just to take pictures and give you a CD with the pictures? Granted I will but it’s rather frustrating that they expect to be tipped when they are already being paid a boat load of money in the first place.

Post # 13
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1227 posts
Bumble bee

@peachacid:  Then are you ok with your photog or whatever leaving for an hour (I assume you get a lunch break) during your event?  Personally, I’d rather fork out to feed them then have them leave for an hour, or heaven forbid, something happen and they can’t get back.

Post # 14
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508 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

@peachacid: You beat me to it.

Post # 15
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: June 2014

@MissComicBook:  I never tip people who own their own businesses!  Why is the rule different for weddings???  Ridiculous!

And as for the feeding, don’t the halls usually have a special vendor plate for a cheaper price?  But, I agree.  I get that they’re there for hours, but at no other job do you evver get lunch/dinner paid for you, regularly!

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