I have to drop out of ex co-workers wedding

posted 3 years ago in Bridesmaids
  • poll: Is it okay to drop out of her wedding
    yes : (36 votes)
    97 %
    no : (1 votes)
    3 %
  • Post # 3
    Member
    5664 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: August 2012

    I say yes, if it’s not an obligation you feel you can fulfill it’s ok to drop out. She may not feel the same way though so just be prepared for… backlash I guess

    Post # 4
    Member
    4528 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: April 2015

    I would just say that you value her friendship, but you have too many other obligations right now and you can’t stand up with her.

     

    Post # 5
    Member
    215 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: October 2005

    @laurabess10:  You should absolutely drop out if you don’t have the means or the want to be her bridesmaid.

    We see post after post on the bee from brides wondering why a bridesmaid is unhappy or uninvolved. I suggest you just cut out the drama and just be totally honest. I would say something like 

    “Friend, I cannot tell you how honored I am to be considered for a bridesmaid. However I’m going to have to backout. I just don’t have the means or the time to be a bridesmaid. I am so happy for you and I certinaly didnt’ want to cause you stress on your wedding day.”

    Keep it short and honest. I don’t think you’re doing anything wrong at all 🙂 

    Post # 6
    Member
    1563 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: May 2014

    If you don’t want to be in her wedding, drop out.

    Post # 9
    Member
    1994 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: September 2012

    Yeah I would just be honest! Do you still plan on attending the wedding? If so (and she’s a reasonable person) she will totally understand.

    Post # 11
    Member
    1563 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: May 2014

    @laurabess10:  I would be totally upfront about it. Let her know what your budget is, and that you have x amount of free time. Perhaps she’ll reconsider her bridesmaid dress choices? Perhaps you’d be a better person to help with the time-intensive tasks rather than monetary tasks for throwing a shower, etc, if you have the time. Maybe she’ll just be happy for you to be there for her on her day? Until you talk with her, you won’t really know how she feels?

    Post # 12
    Member
    1994 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: September 2012

    @laurabess10:  Your honesty should be rewarded! I hope it all works out for ya!

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