(Closed) i have to go to court tomorrow :(

posted 7 years ago in Waiting
Post # 3
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Buzzing bee

Deep breaths! Perhaps you could get a friend or family member to go with you. I know it will be tough, but the majority of the time will be in the court room and monitored.

Post # 4
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2011

why are you going to have to see him???

Post # 5
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2011

I just read a past post…girl im so sorry!!! just breathe and you will do just fine…dont look at him, and have a family member or a good friend go with you!

Post # 6
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

Talk to the victim advocate if your DA’s office has one (I’m guessing/hoping they do). Also, bring a friend/family member if you can. Just remember how much guts you have to be doing this – you’re very strong.

Post # 7
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2016

You will be fine.  You will not be alone with him.  Let your DA or whomever is reperesenting your side of the case know how you are feeling, and ask what kind of steps you need to take to feel safe.  Remember, no matter what he says “caused” him to freak out on you – he’s an adult who chose to react like an uncontrollable child instead of a man.  People all over the word get angry and lose their temper without committing assault.  Ask for a restaining order, make sure you mention any other previous events (if there were any), and also, ANY time in the future, make sure to report any harassment by him, no matter how small it seems.  The police can only help if there is a log of events to back up your story, so help them out by reporting anything threatening.

 

Post # 9
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: December 2010

Just remember, he’s the coward. And you are so brave for coming forward and showing the world what he did, and for standing up for yourself and your children. You’ve already shown your enormous courage and strength, and you WILL get through this. 

***HUGS***

 

Post # 10
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Honey bee

We will all be there with you! OK not in physical presence, but in thought and spirit.

Post # 11
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: December 2016

Do not look at him at all because he will try to get your attention so he can say he loves you and that he’s sorry.  He might even have a couple tears on his face, trying to look like a puppy dog.  Do not fall for it.  Be brave, tell the judge exactly what happened, and you will be fine.  Talk to you soon. *hugs*

Post # 13
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Bee Keeper

When you get to the court, explain the situation briefly to security. They will not let him anywhere near you. When you are in the same room, keep your body turned away from him. If you need to switch court rooms let him walk first so you know where he is.

I know you want to appear strong to him but this is the time to be honest and expressed how scared you are. I have been through the process if you need additional help. 

Much love and many prayers.

Post # 14
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Sugar bee

My thoughts are with you tomorrow- remember, he didn’t deserve what he did to you and he should be punished so that he never does it again to ANY woman.

Post # 16
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Bee Keeper

Praying for you today, sweetheart. I wish I could give you a big hug. I know all of this is terribly scary but you will get through this.

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