I have to invite someone that no one wants there (vent)

posted 3 years ago in Emotional
Post # 2
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2015

I think you just have to hope for the best: that she’ll be an adult for once and put her son before her silly childish feuds.

If she comes to the wedding and makes a big dramatic scene, have someone (maybe one of yours or FIs parents, someone closer to her age, not her children’s age) take her aside and explain that they understand that she isn’t on the best terms with certain guests, but if she can’t put that aside to celebrate a marriage and be polite and civil then it would be best if she left. 

Post # 3
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Busy Beekeeper

Is there a reason why she has to be there? If you only invite your friend and his father (as his carer) would that create problems with his care? Does he actually need both of them (since he is semi mobile) ?

I have a friend who is a quadraplegic and even in the years directly after his accident when he was getting accoustomed to the changes in lifestyle he never needed more than one person to assist him. 

I would have a chat with your friend or his father and explain that your budget is limited and you can only afford one extra place.

Post # 5
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

roguehnp2005:  I think this is one of those situations where it won’t be as bad as you imagine. There are often people who hate each other at weddings, the most obvious example being divorced parents of the bride or groom. Most of the time (and certainly for the weddings in my family with my divorced parents) these divorced parents manage to be civil to each other, and can be seated well apart.

I’m guessing that apart from her daughter’s ex (the Best Man, who wouldn’t be at her table anyway), she’ll manage to at least be fake-nice to her son’s friends, for the sake of her son.

Post # 7
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Busy Beekeeper

roguehnp2005:  If she does that then I would talk to your friend and possibly offer to hire a carer for the day. Her being unreasonable should not stop him from attending. He is disabled, not her hostage.

  • This reply was modified 2 years, 8 months ago by  j_jaye.
Post # 8
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2015

j_jaye:  Yes! I was just about to post this. Excellent suggestion. 

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