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I have to try my dress on for the first time by myself

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    arobb81    January 1, 1990  

    I don't have anyone to come with me when I pick up my dress and try it on for the first time.  I went tonight to pick it up but the place was packed with brides and their families and friends, it made me so depressed that I went home.  I'm going back tomorrow night.  I'm very sad about it, so I just wanted to see if anyone else had to go by themselves and how they handled it.

     
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    ejs4y8    June 20, 2009  

    I did! It wasn't a big deal. Look at it like less drama--you can get in and out and get on with your day.

    You don't have to have a gaggle of people around you to have a nice experience trying on your dress. If people can't come, people can't come! Nobody feels sorry for you. If anything, I noticed I got better treatment from the attendants since they were catering to ME, not my mom =].

     
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    krissycake    November 21, 2009   orlando,fl

    I did it, too!  I am sorry to hear it made you upset/sad. =(  In a way, it can be more positive because you can really have your 'moment' with your dress before anyone can inject their opinions =)

     
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    coconutmellie    March 2010  

    You'll be ok! If it's any consolation, I had to PICK OUT and buy my dress all by myself, since my family is thousands of miles away! As ejs4y8 said, it'll be quicker and less stressful for you.

     
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    bvig    September 2009   wedding in NJ

    I did too, I met up with my family then after that one afternoon and we spent the whole afternoon trying on dresses, but then I ended up buying one up closer to where I live.  It was a bit sad but I kinda liked forming my own opinion before I went with all the family.

     
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    Appleblossom    April 24, 2010  

    It will be okay ((HUGS))!! I had to try mine on for the first time by myself, because everyone else was working so I ran straight to the store when they called. The shop I went to had fabulous attendants, so that helped a lot! Also, now might be a good time to try on accessories with it and get a feel for what YOU like without having everyone else tell you what they think you should be wearing.

    Don't forget that even if no one else can be there the first time, you can still do a twirl, or a happy dance in it or whatever!! Yay you're trying on your wedding dress!!

     
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    Stacy Marie    July 24, 2010  

    I think you'll be fine, it'll be much less stressful for you.  *hugs!*  I agree with Appleblossom, it'll be a great chance for you see what you like sans other opinions.

     
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    MsAnnaLytical    March 13, 2010   Orlando, FL--finally with my FI!

    I'm with you there. I went and tried on my dress a few months ago by myself because my family and close friends are back in Texas...I live in Florida now with my FI. I was sad about it initially, but then I witnessed the horror of a mother and bridemaid's opinions clashing and I was significantly more cheerful for the rest of the time. :) In retrospect, it actually helped me choose the dress that was right for me- I know for a fact that my mom and bridemaids would have had much different opinions on the kind of dress I "should" get. Now they're pretty obligated to say "Wow, that looks great!!" :D

     
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    vintage2010    April 10, 2010  

    Yep I didn't even try my dress on the day I picked it up.  It was the day before Christmas and we had family things to do.  So I went and picked it up and hung it in my mom's closest so he couldn't see it!  Don't worry about it.  You'll have plenty of chances to show off in it.

     
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    Jessie516    May 16, 2009   Ann Arbor, MI

    I didn't try on my dress for the first time, but I ordered my dress alone.  My mom and sister had seen it, but neither of them could come with me when I ordered.  I worried that it wouldn't be as fun, but it really went well.  In fact, when I had my mom, sister, grandma and aunts with me when my dress first came in, it was a little overwhelming.  There was a lot going on and they all had opinons, so I had a hard time at first focusing on what *I* wanted in terms of the dress.

    Good luck!  I'm sure it will go well!

     
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    Babilu    November 20, 2010  

    ((HUGS)) I know how you feel! I had to go try on the veils by myself too.

    But, don't be upset! Try to focus on the good side..which is, you won't have to worry about other people's opinion and really just focus on your own! sometimes friends can be very opinionated, and things can get ugly!

    Good luck!!

     
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    IA_Snowflake    August 29, 2009   Missouri Valley, IA

    I went by myself and the salesladies helped me.  It actually helped me.  When I had the people with me it was too crazy for me, this way I only had to focus on MYSELF and my opinions.  Good luck!

     
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    arobb81    January 1, 1990  

    Thank you everyone.  Its hard for me to go alone because my mother passed away when I was nine, and her mother, my grandmother, passed away in 2003, and I was very very very close to them both and miss them every day.  Going to these gown related things make me accutely aware of their absence in my life (I can't even watch shows like Say Yes to the Dress because seeing the moms and grandmothers makes me too upset), and having people with me helps distract me.  I'll just have to suck it up tonight and go alone and hope that I can avoid thinking about it too much.

    Alfred Angelo's customer service SUCKED last night, so I'm just depressed all around.  Oh well.  Thank you for the support.

     
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    di5308    January 1, 2000  

    I went dress shopping by myself about 4 times before I found my dress. I wanted to find the dress that was "my dress" without everyone else's oppinion mixed in. (I mean really, have you seen some of the awful things family/friends say on Say Yes To The Dress??) I didn't want the pressure, and to be honest it was easier with schedules and all that. Then I had family come back with me to see it before I ordered it. When it arrived I picked it up by myself. I just tried it on and then looked over every inch for pulls in the fabric or missing beads. It wasn't a big deal.

     

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