Post # 1
Looking at wedding invitations I just realized most couples include their middle names..is it proper to do so?
my only issue with doing so is the fact that I have two middle names while of course my fiancé has one middle I feel like it just looks odd (off balanced) if I do our middle names…my name comes out rather long.
I can’t just do one middle name as it would offend my family since both my middle names are my grandmothers names..
What are your thoughts? Maybe just doing our first and last names and leaving out the middle names?
Post # 3
- Wedding: November 2013 - St. Augustine Beach, FL
We only used first and last, no middle names.
Post # 4
i have two middle names and actually my FI is a III. so i felt even then my name would look super long. i didnt want to just leave some of it out. so i just put my first name. middle initial. and last. , same for him plus his III. Another reason i did it was because our invites were going to look cluttered with so many names , not to mention just uneven.
Post # 5
I don’t know- I just feel like one of the reasons my parents gave me such a long, beautiful hyphenated middle name was because someday they’d be on my wedding invitations, lol!
I don’t understand all of the hang-ups about “evenness” and “equality.” You have two middle names, and your FI doesn’t. So what? Nobody’s names are perfectly even in length, so one is inevitably always going to be longer than the other.
As long as your whole name fits on one line, I think you should use it.
Post # 6
FI and I both have two middle names – we both used them both on our invites. We didn’t use last names though, because we covered that with our parents. So it was like:
Mr and Mrs MYLASTNAME
Mr and Mrs HISLASTNAME
request the honour of your presence at the marriage uniting their children
MY FULL NAME
HIS FULL NAME
Post # 7
@MissParrot: I put in both of mine, even though Fi only has one. 🙂
It works out because my invite forms wording around a round shape inth e bottom left corner. So the lines on my invites anturally make a curve, and it works.
Post # 8
We actually didn’t include our middle names, didnt even think about it really. Unevenness isn’t a big deal though, do whatever you want.
Post # 9
I put both of his, even though I only have one (short) middle name. I didn’t think it looked that bad. I obviously blurred for privacy, but you can still see the length for comparison sake.
Post # 10
I never use my middle name and most invites I’ve seen lately don’t use them either:)
Post # 11
I like the idea of doing middle names and just using our parents last names…however whereas my parents are divorced and have different last names it may be confusing…
and like I said I can’t just use my first middle name….as it would very much offend my Father…if I left out his mothers name…esp since she died when he was 18.
Post # 12
I would put full names, including both your middle names and his one. It shouldn’t make it toooo off. Try it. If it really bothers you (and wait like a week and check again) then just do first and last names. (but then that begs the question, are your first/last names together similar lengths to eachothers?)
ETA: Yeah definitely don’t use one of your middle names. All or nothing for sure.
Post # 13
We are only doing First Last. I think it’s fine! Guests don’t need to know your middle name(s) anyway.
Post # 14
My fiance has 5 middle names, one of which he goes by as his given name.
I think just first and last names are fine. You have way more to stress about than something as trivial as this. Seriously.
Post # 15
- Wedding: April 2014 - Italian Villa
@quartzknee: 5? Holy cannoli, how did he end up with 5 middle names? Is he royalty?
Post # 16
My name is way longer than my fiance’s. Because my parents are hosting the wedding, we just put my first and middle name, but my fiance’s full name.
Mr and Mrs MyLast request the pleasure of your company at the wedding of their daughter
Fiance HisMiddle HisLast
It was one of the standard options shown on a lot of etiquette sites.