- 7 years ago
So I have had no communication with my MOH and supposed friend other then a few text messages about a month after I got home from my honeymoon, this was months ago. I regretted even having a BP but felt pressured that I “had to have a bp” so did it anyway. The 2 of them did nothing, and again I know some bees on here are going to remind me they are not under any obligation to do anything other then show up with a dress on and I totally understand nor did I ask them to do anything, which maybe was my mistake. A little background on my MOH, she’s my longest friend, known her since grade school, but we also had very different lives. Her dad has issues to put it nicely and she wasn’t allowed to do pretty much anything growing up which resulted in her having no social life, no group of girlfriends and besides me only a few acquaintance who she met in HS. Maybe some of this was evenher own doing as she has always been sort of a loner and used to make up stories. I always had a fairly large group of gf’s until college, which I never made any lasting friendships from, but she was one of the only people who always was there for me when all my other friends left. As we got older, she got in an abusive one with a guy who wiped her out of money, proposed (the wedding never happened I was supposed to be the MOH) and ended up being physically abusive so she broke it off after years. I put up with the whining, the stories and it was draining. Me and her in the past would go long periods, months at a time without speaking then one of us would call each other and start talking. Fast forward, I ask her to be my MOH, she got pregnant by her new BF who is 16 yrs older then and sounded even worst then the last guy.
Again I sat and heard the sob stories, the whining and it was like nothing changed. She ended up moving in with him in a really, bad neighborhood in a different county from where we grew up. I had to hound her literally to get her to put a deposit on the dress and even told her if financially it was too much, I would understand but she said it wasn’t. I brought her home from fittings bc she didn’t drive and even drove her to doctor appts that no one else cared if she got to or not. She had the baby, I visited her at the hospital the whole 9. The baby’s father, even though I only met him like 3 times, there was something off about him, something shady, and especially with the age difference, and at times he came off like a real you know what. As the wedding got closer, her and other BM offered no help, but a week before she offered to go to the store with me for decorations, this was when she was in my car already and then OFFERED to put together a whole TAKE ME OUT DAY before the wedding..again her IDEA. Well of course, her plan never went through, she never even mentioned it again and suddenly days before the wedding I was asked to pick up her dress bc now she couldn’t get it herself she had work, and I did. Her stories changed like the wind. Of course, my family was “oh she has a baby, and oh look at the situation she’s in”..and yes I understand. The real kicker and thing that pissed me off the most was the night before my rehearsal dinner I get a text that her baby had to go in the hospital. Now, again it COULD had been true but I had some serious doubts and me and my hubbie still don’t believe it. I asked her is she needed anything and as she went on with the details, a lot didn’t add up. I think she was just waiting for me to say oh don’t worry about coming to the dinner, but I didn’t and she came and sat there texting her BF the entire time.