(Closed) I haven’t spoken to my MOH since my wedding..Advice really needed..Long

posted 7 years ago in Married Life
Post # 3
Hostess
18646 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2009

To me, this person sounds toxic.  I would try to move on from her.  I know it’s hard making new friends, I moved to a new place a year ago and I’m just starting to make friends now.  Try to talk with the people you work with and go to school with.  Some of them could end up being people that you want to be friends with.

Post # 4
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8354 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: March 2011

I don’t really know the timeframe or how old her baby is, but she could just be very busy. I would at least text her and/or call her and wish her a happy birthday. I would also share your good news with her. It can’t hurt. Maybe it will bring you two closer together because you will have something in common. She probably thinks you are busy too. You stated that it is not unreasonable to go quite some time without contact on both ends.

Post # 6
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8354 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: March 2011

@FinallyMarried82: I really do understand how you feel, but I have had three children and after having them, looking after them took 99% of my time, and I rarely had time for anyone or anything else. Since she is a new mom, her child is probably taking up the majority of her time; add to that the time that her boyfriend wants her to spend with him; household duties and chores and maybe an out of the home job, and she it probably really tired and just wants to sleep in her spare time.

Post # 7
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411 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: January 2011

It sounds like she might have a touch of post-pardum too. Pregnancy and post pregnancy throw a body way out of whack. I’d cut her a little slack. She watched her best friend have a wedding that she wanted to have, and has had pregnancy hormones, and is now dealing with a new baby.

Post # 8
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2410 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

I think that there really is no point in dwelling on what happened at your wedding. People will always have different ideas about how much effort they need to put into being in the bridal party. If this is a friend you have deigned to keep all these years in spite of any issues you may have had with her over the years, will you really end because you don’t like how she behaved in the run up to your wedding? I don’t have any kids but I can tell yo that everyone I know who had them dropped off the grid for a few months. It was like a whirlwind hit them.

Post # 9
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1891 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

I’d tell her happy birthday and let her know that you are also expecting a baby.  It never hurts to try, and you don’t want to spend forever feeling like you not calling her marked the end of a friendship.  However, if she continues to be rude and apathetic about you and your life, I think I’d cut her out of my life.

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