- 9 years ago
- Wedding: June 2010
Okay.. My FI and i will be 22 when we get married and he will be done with school (God willing)> Since we are moving out of state well he is at least to Texas, he is going to try his hardest to have a job lined up in Texas before we are married or shortly afterwards. We have told both of our parents this. My parents are worried as any would be stated it and moved on with the planning and joyfulness of it all even though their marriage is on edge. His father keeps asking is we postponed it again or have moved it to Ohio so he does not have to travle and “waste” his money (seeing as that is all he is paying for when it comes to the wedding, my FI parents had a nesty divorce). My FI’s mother has done nothing but complain about when, where, helping pay or the rehearsal, what flowers i want, what colors, the we need to wait until we are financially set for 5 years. this being said we went dress shopping on the 18 of July and she talked to my mom about how my FI and i need to wait longer and he needs a job. Then she said it to me. This was not the first time. i told my FI that it needs to stop we could not even enjoy the day. So it stopped for a bit. Later the next week I was telling her that since I am in texas i can help with a place for the reception dinner. If she gave me a rice limit and what she was looking for I could look into things closet o where everyone would be. I got the lets wait untill a couple months before to do that. I dont want to do it now. I dont want to put money towards it. I told her okay my parents wanted to know also just incase she needed help seeing as she is raising 4 kids alone. I finally got a little answer. I got a place that charges nothing to reserve and was under her budget. Whew that went ok except the fight to get an answer. I am not waiting till April to reserve a room for 30 people in June. Then today as I was talking to her about the flowers for the wedding (she offered to do them for us and buy it all which is great but she takes over!!) The conversation seemed good and I was talking about how exciting it was and that I cannot wait to do even more of the planning and preparing. The next thing i know i get this line ” not to put a damper on things but there are still things that need to happen first like mr liltexas bride gradguating and getting a job”
WTF!! It does not stop ever. I think today was the last string. i want to give her 100 bucks for the flowers she bought and do them myself. hat way I know whats going on with them, I can not deal with her games every time I have a question about them. I want to send her a check and write a letter but I have no idea what to say let a lone it it is the right things.
I dont know what to do…