- 7 years ago
- Wedding: July 2010
I really don’t mean to sound like a horrible brat but I just can’t get past being angry at my in-laws. From the day we told them we were engaged his mother announced they were going to give us $1,000 to pay for the rehearsal dinner like they did their other son. I told them that i wouldn’t want to spend 1000 on the rehersal. His mother then insisted that we would get 1,000 from them and we could use it anyway we wanted.
I was very skeptical this would happen. Though his dad makes over 26 dollars and hour and she gets disability, they are always broke and calling to borrow money from us. They are the kind of people who make poor money decisions. About 5 months before the wedding they borrowed 260 dollars from us, saying they would give us money every week till it was paid off. We gave them the money directly out of the wedding fund. They never paid us a cent.
This whole time they insisited they had a plan and would be giving us the money. Meanwhile we decided to have a small wedding with only 60 guests so we could have a nicer wedding, open bar, seated dinner etc. My husband knew only about 13 ppl i knew would be able to come because i am from out of state.
Our truck engine then decided to blow up so we had to take 2,400 out our 5,000 budget. We really needed the help at this point.
However because of our small guest list plan, His family accoused us of being snobs and basically ruining our wedding. His mother then called to apoligize but would still make comments. Fast forward to the wedding month, they have bought a brand new flat screen tv despite oweing us money and haven’t contributed a cent. They then call to say they can’t give us but 500 before the wedding and 500 after.
The week of the wedding they call to say they can only give us 500 before the wedding. Then two days before the wedding they say they can’t give us anything. I was so upset because I felt like they were too selfish to save any money to fulfill their promises.
To top it all off they didn’t even get us a card for the wedding or my shower. All i wanted at this point was a card saying congrats, but they couldn’t even do that. The day after the wedding they called to borrow money again.
When we got back from our honeymoon we found out that his dad was leaving to go to canada to go fishing with the guys for a week. The cost of the trips you ask? $1,200.
His mom has said she was wrong about the wedding and how it was the best wedding ever but i just can’t forgive her for making me have all these negative experiences and thoughts about my wedding. She also keeps asking for expensive birthday and christmas presents, and it is so hard to not say, You didn’t even get us a card!!!!!
I try not to bring this up with the husband because it isn’t his fault. But I just can’t let it go, I want to say something to them about how they have made me feel, but i know it won’t do any good. How do I say, why couldn’t you keep your promise or at least try? Why is a trip to canada more important than keeping your word? Why did you have to critize our wedding choices and accuse my husband of changing because he wouldn’t give you money? Why couldn’t you have at least made us a homemade card with a nice note saying how much you loved us?