(Closed) I just cant shut up about it!

posted 5 years ago in Waiting
Post # 3
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1880 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

You stop talking about it to him by posting on Weddingbee more!

 

Post # 5
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: January 2014

I don’t think it is possible to stop talking baout that stuff! I know I cant i think i am driving everyone around me crazy!

Post # 6
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Bumble bee

@jigga143:  I don’t even try to not talk about it. I love how honest our relationship is so if I am a mess inside he should know! I don’t think it’ll be any less special even if he told me, in 5 minutes I’ll propose because the anticipation will replace the shock and I’ll be ecstatic either way.

I say be you and do what comes naturally. He chose you so he’ll love you any way. I hate when women alter their behavior. Its like tricking your SO into thinking you aren’t who you are. If you care tell him!

Post # 9
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873 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

Buy yourself a pretty ring, look at it and keep your mouth closed!! lol…

Post # 10
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

@jigga143:  If you want to talk about all of that future stuff with him, then talk about it. Just don’t bug him about the proposal.  And try so very very hard not to act sad/mad/disappointed if a moment comes and goes and you thought he would propose and he didn’t. Like you said, he probably wants to surprise you, so just try to go with the flow. 

One of my best friends told me that she absolutely regrets the fact that she basically ruined her proposal on their ski trip because she pouted in the chalet about the fact that he hadn’t proposed yet and she had gone through his suitcase to see if he brought a ring and didn’t find one. He eventually did propose to her on the trip and she was so happy and excited, but still has that little pang of regret for the way she acted leading up to the proposal.

Try to keep it in check a little bit. ๐Ÿ™‚

Post # 11
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326 posts
Helper bee

I think we’re twins, LOL.

I too, know that my BF is goin to be proposing to me soon (I’m suspecting end of February as it’s my birthday AND our anniversary). Also, he wants to surprise me… but the more I talk about it, the more it ruins the surprise element and the longer he’ll probably wait.

Everytime I *want* to talk about it, I stop and ask myself “1- Do I REALLY need to say this right now?, 2, Will anything change if I say this? Probably not. So hush up.” and at the end of the day, if I’ve kept my mouth shut, I feel victorious!! Or I give myself mini-goals. Like if I go a solid 7 days without talking about it, I’ll let 1 thing slip through. But I’ll keep it quick, and short.. not a lengthy discussion or anything. 

I know it’s hard… everyone I know is having weddings or babies. 

Sometimes I freak out and think “UGGGH IT’S ONLY JANUARY 13TH! time is moving sooo slow.”…lol. Just gotta relax and let it happen though.

I hope it happens for you soon! ๐Ÿ™‚

Post # 14
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2015

@E_Lynne615:  +1

@AquaGrey8962:  +1

@jigga143:  For me, personally, I do my best to keep really busy so I don’t have time to think about that stuff. It really does help. I’ve taken up knitting, which is great because I can take it with me when we hang out at his parents’ house (I try watching sports, but I get bored).

If he winds up telling you that you are getting on his nerves, then you really do need to back off. Until then, if he seems ok with it, then I think it’s fine for you to bring it up a bit. Just don’t talk about it constantly throughout the day, every single day.

One of the things I’ve done (with the ok from boyfriend) is I’ve started doing research (or as I call it, recon; my dad was a Marine and I feel cool saying it). I have word documents with information on potential venues, dresses, etc. I’ve even started a running list for potential baby names; it works out great because he started getting a little sick of me saying I liked a certain name and now he’s the one who randomly mentions names.

Just do your best. It will happen when it happens, so try and enjoy the present while it lasts.

Post # 16
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2009

Treat yourself to a spa day to relax! Or, if you don’t have the money/time to go, or just hate spas, give yourself an at-home facial/manicure/bubble bath and listen to awesome, empowering music. ๐Ÿ˜€

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