I just changed my last name and I feel some regret..

posted 2 years ago in Names
Post # 2
1085 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

Just like you. Then got used to it.

Post # 3
4649 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

JazzyGirl85:  On the very last day that I could (for free), I changed my last name on my marriage license. That was a very tough decision and I almost didn’t do it!! I haven’t changed it anywhere officially yet and other than being a headache and being dorky (it rhymes with my first name) I won’t really regret it. I am wondering if you just need some time to soak it in, though. It’s all brand new for you! And truly if you find you don’t like it, you can change it back, you just have to go through the courts now (or in the future).

Post # 5
6158 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: October 2013

i felt amazing. i knew it was something that i wanted to do.

sorry you are not happy about your decision.

Post # 6
2264 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2015

JazzyGirl85:  I have such a fear of this. We are getting married next year. I have such a unique name. I’ll be sad to change it but I know FI will be sad if I don’t. Sigh.

Post # 7
6788 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: March 2014 - A castle!

JazzyGirl85:  Just like you! I’m slowly getting used to it. It’s been 3 months and I still haven’t changed it on my driver’s license or credit cards, but I have changed it at the SS office. I felt weird when I got my new card in the mail with my new name on it.

Post # 8
5935 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: October 2013

I was thrilled to change my last name. I always knew I would and had no special attachment to my maiden name.

I’m sorry you aren’t sure about your decision. I guess just give it time and if you feel regret, you can change it back.

Post # 10
3344 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2013 - Rhode Island

I was really nervous going to Social Security.  I ended up happy there because I was able to have 2 middle names, which is what I wanted.  But then when I went to the DMV to get a new license, they truncated my middle names and I literally left in tears.  I was very upset.  Changing your name is a big deal.  I think it’s normal to have mixed emotions about it.

Post # 11
202 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

The day we get the marriage cert in the mail is the day I am going down to the social security office to get the process of changing my last name started. It’s one of the big things I am so excited for. My mother had to put her maiden name down on my birth certificate because my father wasn’t present at the birth (old TN laws) but when they put me in school, they used my father’s last name. So for a long time, I have had to deal with people using the two last names at random times. Once and for all, I want a last name that everyone will use. 


It’s not a mistake…just something you will have to get used to 🙂

Post # 13
1834 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

JazzyGirl85:  I hear you. I get sad every time I think about not having my name anymore. The traditionalist in me wants to take my fiance’s name, and my inner feminist is all “NOO! Your identity!”

That’s why I’ve decided my maiden name will become my middle name and my fiance’s name will be my new last name. 🙂 It’s the perfect solution for me. Have you thought about going that route?

Post # 14
1883 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: March 2012

Totally normal. I knew without a doubt I would take my husband’s last name, but it was still a weird and unsettling feeling when I actually did it. I think anytime you do something permanent, there’s going to be moments of doubt even if you know it’s what you want.

Post # 15
2661 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2014


nightborn:  That’s what I did.  My maiden name is now my middle name and my last name is now his last name.  I still have gotten used to being Mrs. Sawyer, though!

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