Post # 1
I MIGHT get in trouble.
s crazy about his books -it doesnt matter what the content of the book is he will NOT let me throw it out. The end result – a bookshelf that looks like a bomb went off.
But, I didn`t throw anything out (that I am telling him about) and it looks a whole bunch better.
Does anyone else have a FI who is a borderline hoarder?
Post # 3
No but my Dad is. He buys tons of stuff that he never uses and keeps it in a state of disarray in the basement and the one extra bedroom designated for his stuff. His office is like that, too, and when I worked for him I would tidy things up and arrange his shelves while he was out of town and he would always FREAK out. It kills me because he’s always buying books on Amazon but the only thing I’ve ever seen him sit down to read is the New England Journal of Medicine so he has hundreds of unread books just sitting around taking up space!
Post # 4
Mines the exact opposite! He HAAAAATES clutter. He thinks a stark empty house is just fine. I cant even convince him that we should little table for a totally unusable corner so I can put some flower or pictures on it so that the room is not so empty!
Oh! Yes, my dad is like that though. His office is FULL!! And basement.. FULL. But he claims to know exactly where everything is… which he actually does. My mother would never dream of touching anything in that room…
Post # 5
I rearrange things all the time and I throw things out without telling him all.the.time.
It’s been 3 years, he hasn’t caught me yet.
Post # 6
I don’t know if this counts but DH has kept everything he’s ever gotten from a sporting event. If he caught a t-shirt or received a towel at the gate, he kept them. Foul balls/ homerun balls? Kept them. Hockey pucks over the glass? Yep… broken bats? You get the idea. I have been secretly throwing these things away (unless they’re autographed) piece by piece over the past 3 years and he hasn’t even noticed. But before, when I would ask if I could throw it out he’d respond with “NO! THIS IS SPECIAL!” And then shove it in the back of the closet.
Post # 7
@firsttimemom: “NO! THIS IS SPECIAL!”
hahahaha that made me super lol.
Post # 8
Mine is and it drives me NUTS. It’s sad because my dad, same way. HOWEVER, I told him that when I move in, I will be like a vacuum machine. I SHALL THROW EVERYTHING AWAY. I mean, he has papers from college, he graduated last millenium. Yes bees, in the 90’s. So why are they still there? I hate clutter. If there’s one thing I hate about my NYC apartment, it’s the fact that I don’t have lots of space…wedding planning has not helped any. Well, I try and sneak in to clean his place but he always notices. Sheesh, why do you have booklets of coupons from 4 months ago??
Post # 9
@.twist.: lol i just had a hilarious mental image! FH has a million comic books in boxes in his closet. other than that though, he’s pretty good. ;]
Post # 10
I can’t touch DH’s piles. OMG I get into so much trouble! I tidy his things up and consolidate, but never never throw anything out!
Post # 11
YES!! It drives me batty!
He keeps everything! All mail has to be shredded (which never happens = piles of mail everywhere), he has to read all the ads that come in the mail, has about 10 of the SAME tshirts that he got for FREE from his old job and will not throw/give them away, boxes of playboy mags from his bachelor days that he can’t get rid of, the garage is FULL of camping gear (I literally can’t walk through the garage), and computer parts/wires everywhere!!
To be honest, I’ve had a couple breakdowns and I told him by the end of the year we WILL have this house in order and we WILL be getting rid of stuff. His office (our only other bedroom) is going to be cleaned out so we can make it into a nursery for when we have a baby.
I blame his mother for his OCD tendencies. Lol.
Post # 12
LOL I’m the messy one in our relationship. I don’t horde though, I just spread out. 😛
Post # 13
I can be a “piler” at times. Where I know where everything is, but in the midst of chaos, I have my mini piles everywhere. My FI calls it my “Structured Chaos” lol. Im trying to be better at it. But for Crafting/DIYing, it WORKS! lol
Post # 14
@firsttimemom: TOTALLY COUNTS because clearly the T shirt from 1999 for the local hockey team NEEDS TO BE SAVED! Just like the callendar from 2008???
OR the 1991 catolog for mountain climbing harnesses -I’m not sure if FI has ever climbed a mountain, but he WILL NOT let me throw it out. Dork.
The really scarry thing ladies is I’m a total clutter bug too!!! I’ve learn to curb this habit with carefully structured boxes & yearly “toss outs” but I’m not the tidiest of gals.
Post # 15
I’m also a “piler” but I keep my piles fairly neat and I always know where things are. FI looooves to come through and condense my piles into one and then shoves it in a box somewhere and it’s gone forever (I’m convinced this is where my dogs’ shot records and adoption papers are…)
Our garage looks like a car shop threw up. There are car parts everywhere! I don’t even look at it. I bought FI a nice tool box for his birthday and I ended up having to take it back for a smaller one because “this one is too big and takes up all the space”. UGH! I’ve told him to never leave the garage door opener at home with me because he’ll come home and it’ll all be in the garbage. lol
ETA: We’ve both agreed that when we move into a house we will be seriously cleaning out and carefully going through the things we bring. lol
Post # 16
I’m very picky about my book piles – the way they’re stacked with the papers and postits around them represents how my ideas are developing in my head. IKNOWRITE? My Loverboy is pretty patient.
However, if your FI is not picky about how they arranged, why not try something like this? I think it’s really cool, just not for me, because I organize by subject and then alphabetize (at least when they’re on the bookshelves).