- 5 years ago
- Wedding: May 2013
Fiance and I came down to his dad and aunt’s (they live together) for the weekend. We hadn’t been down in months, and since I had the weekend off we decided to come for a visit.
On Friday, his aunt and I went to the coast while him and his dad spent the day together. They went out to the beach, did some fishing, just had a great time. We all had dinner when Deb and I got home from the coast from doing some wedding planning.
Yesterday morning, Deb and I left for a craft fair that she was a part of, and strangely enough, Kim (FI’s Dad) didn’t have coffee ready at 5am like usual. Instead of going and seeing what was wrong, we had to leave and get out of the house. The boys were supposed to be going to the races at an indoor sprint car track yesterday, so we expected them to be gone until 11pm or so…so way after when we were getting home.
Deb and I started heading into town to get dinner, when I got a text from Fiance that they were still at the house. I called him and he said his dad hadn’t woken up, so we figured that he was just tired as a few weeks ago he was in the hopsital for early congestive heart failure.
When we got home, Fiance said that his dad hadn’t woken up all day and that he went ahead and started doing the chores they had talked about doing the day before, so he just did his own thing and got everything done.
Deb went to go and check on him, and he was gone. She said he was cold and lifeless. It just doesn’t make sense to me, I know he had heart problems, but for him to be completely fine one day, and not with us the next…I just can’t wrap my head around it. None of us can.
He was my father, not just my father in law. He always called me his daughter, and he truly was one of the most amazing men that I know.
The ME said he passed away in his sleep, which means he wasn’t in pain. And the day before Fiance and him got to spend some great quality time together. Of course, we’re all still in shock. I keep thinking how he’ll never see his son get married (he was so excited for the wedding), he’ll never get the chance to be a Grandfather…there’s just so many things that he hadn’t done yet.
I don’t want to keep going on and on. I’ve never lost someone this close to me, actual close family. How do you deal with this? I’m already brainstorming ways to include him at the wedding.
It’s 3am, and I can’t sleep. I’m just hoping you ladies can help us figure out how the hell we’re supposed to get through this, because right now it hurts like hell….