- 6 years ago
- Wedding: July 2013
I need some advise on how to break some news to my grandmother…
My Fiance and I are planning on a destination wedding, and thus, we want a VERY small guest list (in total, we’re planning on 15 guests). The issue is that I don’t know how to break it to my family (especially my grandmother) that some — well most of them just didn’t make the cut.
My problem in explaining it, is that it isn’t a simple “We didn’t want to invite extended family”, because I have planned on inviting my immediate family, my grandmother, and one of my aunts and her family. I’m very close to this aunt and her youngest daughter (she’s one of my BM’s). I’m also planning on asking her other daughter to be our photographer, and her grand-daughter to be our flower girl/ ring bearer (which also ix-nays the “We don’t want kids at the wedding” argument).
How do I explain (gently, and courteously) to my other 2 aunts, and my grandmother, that while I love them all and would love to have my other aunts with us, it just isn’t financially viable? (My Fiance and I are paying for the whole thing.) I have other personal reasons for not wanting them there, but I don’t think those would go over well…
We are planning a second reception dinner in our home town for every family member to attend.