I just found out one of my best friends is pregnant…via facebook

posted 3 years ago in Relationships
Post # 3
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 2013

I got a text earlier this week from a friend saying she’s expecting – I really don’t care as I don’t really like this person anymore so I didn’t really care.  I guess what I’m saying if you two were close enough for bridesmaids status then yes, I’d be hurt. 🙁

Post # 4
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

I get why you would be upset. That being said, I would just let it go and not rain on her parade. She’s excited about her pregnancy; don’t dampen her joy by telling her you are POed that you didn’t get notification earlier.

I’m currently PG and SIL got upset we didn’t tell her before everyone else and that we didn’t tell her the name as soon as we picked it. TBH, we were less apologetic and more bummed that she wanted to make this about her feelings.

Post # 5
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

@Swizzle:  Ouch! Not even a text to tell you? I’d be a bit hurt, too. I don’t post a whole lot to Facebook, but I definitely made sure to at least text (if I couldn’t get a hold of them by phone) my nearest and dearest about my engagement before updating my status. I’m sorry 🙁

Post # 6
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

Was it her family that posted something? If I were expecting I would try to wait past the first trimester to tell anyone but I don’t think I could keep it from my Mom. Then I would have to trust she wouldn’t let anything slip.

Post # 7
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: April 2014

@Swizzle:  Someone else posted it on facebook? It’s possible she was trying to keep it quiet, it could be early, she could’ve had struggle with getting pregnant and is nervous to tell people. Was the person that posted it close to her? When I found out I was pregnant and we told some close family and friends I made sure my facebook was on lock down in case someone posted something that I didn’t want to be posted yet. I’m glad I did. 

Post # 8
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 2013 - St. Augustine Beach, FL

@Swizzle:  She may be upset that someone else let the cat out of the bag before she could tell other people.  It’s not like she did some grand announcement post herself.

Post # 10
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2014 - Madison, WI

I guess I’d be a bit hurt but might need more information. You said “someone” posted it on Facebook, not her? Was this someone close to her, does she even know they posted about it? Or perhaps in the excitement of finally getting to tell everyone she just went with social media and didn’t give every single person she knows a phone call. It’s hard to say.

I would give her a call. Say you saw the good news on Facebook and take it from there. See what she says to you.

 

Post # 11
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2015

@Swizzle:  man. That sucks. But if I’m reading correctly it’s not that SHE posted it on FB but someone else? Maybe she told family but is waiting to tell friends and some stupid aunt spilled the beans. 

Post # 13
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Buzzing bee

@Swizzle:  Maybe she just wanted to make one big announcement so that EVERYONE found out at the same time without the drama of telling favorites first.

With that said, this crap right here is why I’m not on facebook.  It’s her announcement, it’s not about you!!  Just sayin’ please do not hate me for saying this.  If anything maybe instead of texting and making you/other friends respond, she just thought she’d put it on fb and let her friends text her as their schedule permits. 

Post # 14
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Helper bee

If someone else posted it, then that person might have jumped the gun a little. You should not hold that against her. She might be pissed at that person herself.  Pregnancy is a funny thing and a lot of people don’t want too many people to know until they are further along because of the potential for risks etc. Also, she is not obligated to tell you- you;re not the father! So just chill and stop taking everything so personal. Frankly, i don;t understand people running out and telling everyone as soon as they know.

Post # 15
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Helper bee

@Swizzle:  Just because it was her FI doesn’t mean she okayed it. Why are you owed a personal announcement? I am not trying to be snarky, i just don;t see why you think you needed to get one.

Post # 16
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Buzzing bee

@veryberry13:  I think we both posted at the same time—her FI posted it OMG well he stole her thunder too so I don’t think you can take that personal.  Reminds me of that episode of Scrubs where the woman wanted a big party and announcement but the husband ruined it by telling EVERYONE lol.  UGH!

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