Post # 1
It seemed like everything was coming together. FI just got a new job, we signed a lease on a new apartment. Then it happened my boss (who never liked me) came back from maternity leave this week. Then I receive a customer complaint about my job performance. Then I got fired.
I am so shocked, hurt, and angry right now I can’t even eat.
I know that I will eventually get over this and find something new, but how do I cope with such a rejection?
I’m feeling like a terrible failure.
Post # 3
Awww, chin up lady. Take the weekend to mope & have yourself a pity party. Monday, get out there and start looking!
Post # 4
You are not terrible!
Its okay to be upset too ! Chin up and work to make things in your favor for the next job situation.
Also, what area of work are you in?
Post # 5
@Macintosh: I am a true believer that everything happens for a reason. I know that the shock of what you’re going through right now, is probably making it difficult to look on the bright side, but I bet you there is one.
Working for someone who doesn’t like you or vice versa, is very stressful. This is your chance to start a brand new chapter and find something you love.
Good luck to you!
Post # 6
That seems like a pretty extreme results from a customer complaint. Was there ongoing issues, did you get any warning or were you still within the first few months of your job where they can fire you without due cause.
Post # 7
And also use it as a learning experience. Rarely does someone just get fired because someone doesnt like them for no reason. Why would she not like you? What could yo do differently in your next job?
What could you have done better performance wise? We all have room for improvement.
You dont have to answer these questionst to us, but really evaluate them for yourself. You are the one who will benefit the most out of being honest with yourself.
Post # 8
@Genuine513: It was the second complaint from a customer, the first one was because I was new and wasn’t trained properly. This one was just a client that didn’t seem to trust me, though I’d had dozens that I worked great with. They said I didn’t know what I was doing, basically.
I’m in Audio Visual. I was in sales, but I’m thinking I just wasn’t cut out for it. I just don’t know how to move forward from this. Right now my confidence is below nothing.
Post # 9
Keep your chin up! You just spend your weekend eating comfort foods, watching cheesy movies, and being with your FI. and on Monday, you start applying for new jobs.
Post # 10
Don’t feel like a failure! It definitely sucks to get fired but if there’s anything positive you can gather from this crappy situation, take it! I like to believe everything happens for a reason and perhaps this was just a stepping stone for you to land something better. I know it’s tough but try not to beat yourself up about it. Like you said, your boss already didn’t like you so there likely was personal bias in her choice. Relish in what is still going right, take the weekend to relax and recover, and start your job search next week. Good luck!
Post # 11
I’m so sorry you have to deal with this! I’ve definitely been in the same spot before. As per everyone else, I’d take the weekend to have a mini pity party, and then pick yourself up and get back out there on Monday.
Taking a day or two always helps me to cope, and then I’m over it and back on my feet. Everything else is looking up for you, so who cares about your stupid boss! You’ll find something better
P.S: Don’t feel like a failure. It happens to everyone (or most people, any way) and who’s to say you won’t be happier with something new?!
Post # 12
I disagree with PPs on this: ANYONE can fire you at anytime for any reason unless you are under contract.
They can fire you because they don’t like your hairdo!
I am so sorry, but try not to be too hard on yourself, it likely is not your fault, or a reflection on you- furthermore, I bet it will be for the best in the long run!
Post # 13
@lefeymw: I know you are trying to be helpful, but this is not the best thing to say to someone that is already in a state of self-loathing. I know I’m not perfect. No one is.
Post # 14
@cbee: You’re absolutely right. They can fire you and not even tell you why. It’s a crock of BS, but it’s the way things go at times.
Terribly sorry to hear this. I wish you the best of luck.
Post # 15
@cbee: Not here they can’t, unless you are on your three or six month probabtion. They can’t lay you off or fire you without due reason.
@Macintosh: I hear you, I work in sales too, always have, It is a tough area to work in because you are usually put in front of customer long before you are comfortable with what you are selling. If you can’t think on your feet, and convince customers that you know what your doing even if you don’t, its a rocky road. I find either you can pull it off or you can’t, there is no real inbetween. Chin up… you will get through this and onto a new adventure. 🙂
Post # 16
I would be thinking about what to do next. I know you are feeling bad now, but think about what you’d like to do… I know sales certainly isn’t for me.