(Closed) I just got my work schedule, how am I going to plan my wedding???

posted 9 years ago in Logistics
Post # 3
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Bumble bee

Do you have any friends or family that could help with the wedding planning?  What about people from church?  If you have the money, I’d consider hiring a wedding planner.  Just a suggestion.

Post # 5
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Bumble bee

Can you swap any days with co-workers? Or even half-days?

Post # 7
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: January 2010

I hate to say it, because I am an introvert and definitely go out of my way to avoid confrontation. HOWEVER, it sounds like if this is a real problem the best solution is to talk to your boss. The key here is not to complain or sound ungrateful, but to be matter-of-fact and go in with another plan.

"Bill, I certainly appreciate your willingness to work with me on my schedule. As you know, I am planning my wedding right now and the next few months are going to be quite busy. I also noticed that I have significantly more on my schedule than some of the others. I’d like to talk with you about reorganizing some things so that Jack and Jill, who are working fewer hours, can take on a little more. Again, I just want to make sure I can do my job as effectively as possible, without sacrificing my personal values."

I don’t know what kind of job you have, but I have found that being direct and professional usually works pretty well, even though it can be awkward at first

Post # 8
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Bumble bee

oh sweetie, that is super tough….gawd! ick! Can you talk to your vendors, ie:about your fittings…and explain that you have a really really tough schedule and see if they can work with you? Like, "HI, I’m a doctor with a scary rough work schedule but I really want to work with you so can you please work with me? "
Ugh, I’m hurting for you because I know y’all have such packed-in schedules, but I would hope that your vendors would understand that & be able to work around it with you.
And yes, besides fittings, which obviously you have to be there for, if there’s anything else you can dole out to your BM’s, or mom, or whoever….now is the time to delegate.

Post # 9
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2009

I have the same problem.  I’m working everyday (8-12 hrs) from July 1- July 15th in order to get my time off for the wedding.  All I can say is that it sucks, and that this will hopefully help of stay really organized.  I hope so!

Post # 10
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Bumble bee

DG! I was hoping you’d chime in! You understand more than most of us!

Post # 12
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

Wow, that is overwhelming. I personally would take it as a compliment though. Obviously he values your work! I know its tough, and I agree talking to your boss is the best way. If he doesn’t budge at all then take a deep breath and handle one day at a time. I remember working 14 hour days and you just need to keep repeating to yourself, I can do this, I can do this, I can do this.

This extra time at work will also help you earn a little extra moolah for a house and other things too. Just try to remember the bright side. After a long month of working, it will be just that much sweeter when you are off.

Post # 14
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

Good luck! Keep us posted!

Post # 15
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Newbee
  • Wedding: June 2009

it always seems whenever i try to take vacation, they load me up to the gills. i end up having to always stay late the night before. i’ve learned to not fly after work, rather waiting until the next morning because they’ve almost caused me to miss a flight doing this. it’s a pretty common practice i think, they want to get the same amount of work from you even with you out of the office. i am using up my measly week vacation for pre-wedding things that I can’t do until I get to my wedding destination, the wedding and a short honeymoon. and i already found out i’ve got a presentation the day before i leave! for the most part, i dont think employers really care all that much that you have to plan a wedding. Many probably dont realize that its more than just booking an all-inclusive package. All they see is you will be out of the office for a chunk of time, so they want you to make up the work.

you could always do some wedding things at work. that’s what i do! thats what i’m doing now…

Post # 16
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2009

Happilywaiting-

I think the saddest part for me is that I no longer have a single weekend free between now and when we have the wedding.  I try and use my weekends so efficiently for wedding planning, but now that’s pretty much out.

So what we do instead (and I feel a little bad for fiance), but we come home from work and we knock out a project at least 2-3 nights a week.  Last week was all about the groomsmen, groom, flowergirls and ring bearer outfits.  This week is ceremony.  We have a paper taped to the door of our room with a checklist, and we’re making a definite effort to get something checked off daily!

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