Post # 1
I wont name who he is, but he is a bagpiper in Perth who does covers of contemporary rock songs… I thought it would be awesome entertainment given I am half scottish and a large number of people at the wedding are scots or have a scottish heritage. In his online quote request form there was a section that said ‘Budget for event’ I put down $17000 and said it was a wedding for 50 people. His reply back was:
‘Your budget is 17, 000 !! Hahahaa, typo Im guessing?
Umm, no. My reply back initially was:
🙁 no. The website said you did weddings, parties etc so I was just taking a stab. Can’t hurt to ask right?
But after talking with my girls at work, I decided I would NOT take someone laughing at my wedding like that! My reply back was:
Listen, don’t bother replying. I don’t need you laughing at my wedding budget. All I needed was a quote for a service your site said you provided. That was it. You could have always ignored the email if what I wanted wasn’t good enough for you. You didn’t need to be a dick about it.
To some bees out there, this wouldnt be a huge deal.. but I never stick up for myself! I am always taking things in my stride and it takes a lot to get me upset. I even emailed my reply to my Fiance saying I was so proud of myself! haha
Can you believe he said that! How rude! Anyone else had experiences with rude vendors/potential vendors?
Post # 3
Good for you telling him how you feel.
I would have told him he could stick his bagpipes where the sun don’t shine!
Post # 4
Are you sure the line wasn’t meant to ask the budget you’d allot to the bagpiper? In which case he’d be thinking your budget was fabulously high? I have seen this to be the case with some photographers online forms–it says event budget but means “photography budget for event”
However, if it was the way you interpreted it–then that guy is a total dick. And good for you for pointing it out then! $17,000 is PLENTY to have a great wedding with–I’ve seen plenty of photos on here of people having an amazing wedding for way less.
Post # 5
I wonder if he thought it was too much or too little?
Post # 6
I think it is rude that he asked what your budget for the wedding was. The cost of his service shouldn’t be based on how much you are paying for anything else. He should have a flat fee for however many hours of service and whatever fees for extra’s and it shouldn’t matter if you are having a million dollar wedding or a $1000 budget. Anyway, keep looking. Hopefully you will find a musician who won’t give you such a hard time.
Post # 7
Ouf, it wouldn’t matter if his price was super reasonable and he was super awesome…I wouldn’t go with him after that response.
However maybe he thought you meant your budget for him was 17k?
Post # 8
I’m pretty sure that question was asking what your budget was for his service, not your overall wedding budget. Vendors usually only want to know how much you’re able to spend on their specific offering so they can create an appropriate proposal.
ETA—this also explains him assuming your ‘budget’ of $17K for music was a typo.
Post # 9
as long as you paid his fee, i dont see what it had to do with him anyway, how bloody rude!
When me and FI was looking at booking venues, we phoned a beautiful hotel that was my dream local venue. i have been to weddings there and its gorgeous.
When they realised that my wedding party only consisted of 25 people, they said that for ONLY 25 people, they couldnt take our booking, unless it was a midweek wedding. Because our wedding date is August, they will surely be able to book larger weddings on that day. basically our wedding was too small and insignificant for their wonderful hotel. But that if we were stuck for a venue, and we wanted to move our date to a wenesday, then they might consider it!
to an extent i can see their point, but there was no need to be so blunt. we have booked another hotel that is only too happy to take us. OK its not so huge or grand, but neither is their attitudes either. (or the cost) .
Post # 10
I’m pretty sure you’re the one who misunderstood here…yes, the ‘budget for event’ thing was poorly worded, but I’m sure he means what is your budget for the bagpiper – there’s no reason he needs to know the budget for your event. And obviously you’re not going to pay him 17,000, so of course he laughed and assumed it was a typo. You would of been much better off waiting for the clairification I’m sure he would of sent if you hadn’t fired off that second e-mail jumping to conclusions and calling him a dick. I wouldn’t be so proud if I were you, more like eating my words and apologizing for misunderstanding the budget he was asking for and then calling him a very rude name.
Post # 11
Oops, looks like courtney1188 and I posted pretty much at the same time—I agree with her.
Post # 12
ooooh you have a point! re-reading it i also think thats that what he might have meant….
Mind you, having siad that, why would a bagpiper be asking how much you will budget for HIM, surely his price is his price and that just sort of sounds like, ‘how much do you want to pay me’
Sometimes, as a wedding photographer myself, if the clients are struggling with choosing a package i ask them if they have a budget in mind, then i build a package for what they can afford. But a bagpiper doesnt produce an end product, he provides a service, so surely charges by the hour or something.
Post # 13
I hate when people ask my budget. its like: how much money can I get out of you? lol! i know they need a general idea but I feel you.
Post # 14
I dont think he was talking about what my budget is for him. The questions is ‘budget for event’.. the natural answer is the budget for the entire event. Why else would he ask that question if he was not trying to see if it was worth his time or not?
He was also asking things like ‘can I sell merchandise’ etc so I think he was being a dick and my wedding wasn’t going to pay him enough. If it was something like ‘budget for services’ or ‘budget for entertainment’ then I might give him the benefit of the doubt… but ‘budget for event’ means the entire thing
Post # 15
omg YES… rude vendors are a no no!
My fiance and I were looking for chiavari chairs for our wedding… and I msged this company and asked how much they were renting out their chiavaris per chair… and I told them that our budget was $5.50/chair. and this dude replied “Yea, that is a great deal. i’ll go with whoever gave you that.”
UMMM rude?! my fiance got pissed, he replied in the same way, saying how we were just wondering about their service etc, and that he shouldn’t bother replying if he’s going to be rude like that. the dude did not reply after. haha
Post # 16
eeeeeeek – I might shoot off a quick apology – I think his website wasn’t worded well and you misunderstood…
A friend of mine is a piper who gets requests for weddings and funerals often – he asks what their music budget is so he can get back to them with how long he can perform and what songs he would play (some of the more difficult songs require new reeds and/or a different bag) and also whether or not the budget allows for a snare drummer to accompany him.