I just had my baby! Grateful but I do need motherly advice and support please

posted 3 years ago in Parenting
Post # 3
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2012

@Mrsgurzakovic:  ((HUGS)) Congratulations!!  What a happy time.  My baby is graduating college next month but I still remember those wonderful days.  Being a new Mom is wonderful, and also scary sometimes, but you will be fine!  If you have any serious concerns call your doctor’s office, they’re used to getting calls like that, and they’re doing their job to help you.

Good luck and enjoy! 

Post # 4
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2012

@Mrsgurzakovic:  Congrats on the baby!!  DD is only 6 months old, so hopefully my memory of her early days is recent enough to maybe help you out a little bit.

1-The bloodshot thing happens, but it’s never a bad idea to get it looked at just in case.  The whites being yellow would suggest jaundice, but if her bilirubin levels are ok, I don’t know what might cause it.  I would definitely ask again.  If you don’t feel like you’re getting adequate information from her pediatrician, SWITCH DOCTORS.  You should feel like your concerns are being heard and addressed!

2- I did not do formula, but I do remember DD spitting up often at the beginning.  We took more burb breaks, put a rolled towel under one side of her mattress (to elevate her head a teensy bit above belly level without putting anything actually IN her crib with her), and for the most part she has outgrown the spitting up thing.  It is at least a possibilty that she doesn’t like the taste of the formula, but like I said I have no experience with that.

3- I had to wake DD for feedings as well!  I would strip her down to a diaper and would hold her skin-to-skin as much as I could.  I ended up moving from nursing to exclusively pumping because she fell asleep at the breast every.single.time and was not actually gaining enough weight.  Finding a bottle that had a slow enough flow to not choke her was difficult (even slow flow Medela was too fast) and I ended up with Parent’s Choice level 1.  I know a lot of people who swear by Dr Brown’s as well (which should also help with the spitting up) but I have not personally tried them.

Again, congrats on the baby and good luck!!

Post # 5
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2011 - Bed & Breakfast

1. Take her to your pediatrician for verification that she doesn’t have jaundice. It never hurts to follow-up. Trust me, your ped’s office is very used to cautious new parents and no one will think twice about your request.

2. It doesn’t hurt to slowly switch over to a new formula. You may even need to do this a few times to find the right one. And you can experiment with slow flow nipples to see which one works best for her, too. Also, let your ped know that she is spitting up a lot, as that could be a sign that she has some reflux going on. Reflux could be related to the formula and a sensitivity to it, or it could be an issue in and of itself. It’s often a process of experimentation and elimination to figure out what works for her.

3. Can’t help with his one. My DS was constantly awake. Sleep just wasn’t his thing.

Post # 6
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Buzzing Beekeeper
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@lovekiss:  My son was the same way, he was quite wide awake and always hungry.  He gained so much weight so fast he couldn’t wear the outfit I brought him home from the hospital in after only two weeks. 

Post # 7
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2011 - Bed & Breakfast

@Sunfire: People always ask me when I knew that DS had ADHD, and I tell them I knew the moment he was born. He was picking his head up within minutes of birth, looking all around the room wide-eyed and alert, and that never stopped. Everyone told me newborns sleep a lot, but my son did not get that memo. He was awake and demanded constant stimulation. I so envy ladies who have sleepy babies. 

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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

@Mrsgurzakovic:  Congratulations on the new baby! Being a new Mom is hard. Somehow we are just presumed to know what to do, which is just silly, when all of it is new to first time Moms.

Don’t be afraid to ask questions. I don’t know what the situation is where you live, but in Canada we have a public health system where nurses can come to your home to make sure everything is progressing normally. If you have to use your doctor, use your doctor. There may also be new Mom’s groups which can be a huge help.

1)Her Eyes: The whites are yellowish with one eye that is bloodshot. I thought with it being a week thats passed, that bloodshot eye would have healed and her eyes would start to get better. The Dr at the hospital said she doesnt have Jaundice, but I dont  kno how accurate that is based on my own personal evaluation. anyone else had that problem?


Information on Jaundice in Newborns

ttp://www.healthlinkbc.ca/kb/content/mini/hw164159.html

Do you have an appointment for a recheck of the baby? If the doctor was at all concerned  he/she would have suggested it. If the symptoms are getting worse, take the baby to the doctor. The whites of newborns eyes is not the bright white of an adults.

The best judge of whether or not the baby is getting enough fluid, is if she is peeing regulary. She should be having 4-6 very wet diapers per day.

 

2) I formula feed ( long story) I give her enfamil siince this is what was given to her at the hospital as well. Lately, she seems after shes eaten her first 1 oz or 2 oz that she wants more– and when I offer more she cries and doesnt really suck but just tries to find the nipple again, and when she does she doesnt wanna eat. She does spit up alot.. do u think she doesnt lke the milk? Should I switch to something else?

 I don’t recommend switching formula fro every symptom. Yes some babies do have intolerances and some have reflux, but I would advise that you be in consultation with your pediatrician before changing formulas. Every time youswitch, the baby has to get used to a new formula, and that doesn’t happen overnight.

Info on bottle feeding

http://www.healthlinkbc.ca/kb/content/special/hw97537.html

Perhaps after the first couple of ounces the baby needs burping, or may in fact be full.

Newborns stomachs are the size of a walnut, so they don’t need or tolerate as much formula as some people think.

http://www.healthlinkbc.ca/kb/content/special/hw97537.html#tp16804

 

3) Shes a heavy sleeper, ( dont wanna jinx it ) but I do have t wake her for feedings sometimes and sometimes when I Do, she barely even wants to finish an Oz.. I put her back to sleep after I tried many times to tickle her, wake her by chngin her diaper etc, but she Just wants to sleep. Im worried that she wont gain/grow… 

Tips from La Leche Breastfeeding Answer Book- this a great respource for all Moms whether you are breastfeeding or not.

http://www.llli.org/docs/0000000000000001WAB/WAB_Tear_sheet_Toolkit/03_waking_a_sleepy_newborn.pdf

She also scares me cuz of the gagging/cough souds she makes when she eats even though I Always stop mid way or more often to burp her and let her ” breathe”… 

 

If she was having any real breathing problems you would see things like a color change around her mouth- blue, grey, purplish, mottled etc. Babies do make noise when they eat.

 

Post # 9
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

I forget to mention this resource- Baby’s Best Chance

http://www.health.gov.bc.ca/library/publications/year/2012/bbc.pdf

This is  a book that is given to all new parents in BC, but it is also available online. You will find lots of valuable information about what is normal, expected , and what should cause concern.

Post # 10
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2013 - Rhode Island

@julies1949:  Wow!  Go British Columbia!  Thanks for the resource!  (Sorry I don’t actually have any advice because I’m not a mother yet.)

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