Post # 1
I just told him I couldn’t take it anymore. There’s just soo many things…
Talking to other girls (his exes, STRIPPERS, random girls he meets) in a manner I think most girlfriends would find innapropriate and might even catagorize as emotionally cheating.
I’m a stay at home mom and apparently that makes me a second rate citizen. Today, he told me I was worthless.
I think we just want two very different lifestyles. We aren’t happy anymore. Its like we’ve both just given up. I went to stay with my mom for a few days, just to get a breather. And it just made it worse.
We just had a baby together a few months ago. My 3 year old calls him Daddy.
I just don’t know what to do. This is all just hitting me now as I write this, what a mess has become of our lives. I am so heartbroken.
This is the man I thought I would spend the rest of my life with. All he had to say was that he’s sorry that I feel this way.
I don’t really know what I’m looking for here, I just had to get this all out.
Post # 3
@sunshine_kar: Congratulations on being so strong for yourself. You have done a wonderful thing for you and your children. Give it some time, go through the grieving and soon you will feel much better and find the right man who respects you and treats you right. You are NOT worthless and telling you that is unacceptable and a reflection on how insecure he is as a person. We are here for you!
Post # 4
I think you did the right thing. You should not stand to be with someone that does not respect you and calls you worthless while you are at home taking care of his child. Stay strong!
Post # 5
I don’t even know you… but seeing that you are a mother ( and probably a damn good one, too) you are definitely anything BUT worthless! I am sorry you’re going through this… WB is a great place to find support. Kepp your chin up and stay strong and true to yourself!
Post # 6
You are not worthless. And I promise promise promise that the man who you should spend the rest of your life with will see your value. You did the right thing. stay strong cause I have had to do the same thing you did for the same reasons and Im so glad I did. This is very hard I know but it will all be SO MUCH better after the grief and fear subside. much loves.
Post # 7
I admire you sooo much!
I’m so sorry you are in this position 🙁 Thankful that you have family and a good head on your shoulder. Your kids will heal and there will be better things for you in your future. Stay strong and don’t give up. You deserves soo much more!
Post # 8
U are doing the right thing. Sounds like you two just don’t fit together. He’s just one of those guys who likes to talk to women, and that will probably never change. I’m not the kind of girl who wants that type of guy either.
Plenty of men out there value a girl who’s about her family. Plenty of men out there who won’t make you feel so out of place in the relationship.
Time will show you this is the best decision you ever made. Your son will thank you in the long run for not picking someone who makes you unhappy.
Post # 9
You are a smart lady for getting out of that situation and taking a break away from him.
No significant other should EVER tell the other they are worthless. This is emotional abuse and inexcuseable.
Take as much time as you need to figure out what is best for you and your kids. He does not matter right now; you need to take care of yourself and your kids.
If you don’t feel right in a relationship, don’t stay. Find a support group, couseling, therapy; whatever you need to help you figure out what is best for you and your children.
You’ve taken an amazing brave first step.
Post # 10
@sunshine_kar: So sorry to hear what happened, but I am proud that you were strong enough to walk out when you had to. Not alot of women has the courage to say “enough is enough” because of kids, family, settling or even thinking that things will change. You go girl!
Post # 11
@sunshine_kar:I would hardly consider taking care of your family 365 days a year as worthless. You have a lot of worth and you deserve someone who can appreciate it. I’m sorry you are going through this.
EDIT: Screw him!
Post # 13
I agree with all other PPs. Being a stay at home mom is a HUGE job, and he should appreciate the sacrifices that you are making for your family. My mother is a Stay-At-Home Mom and her husband is so grateful that she is there to keep up with the house, shuttle the kids around for practice and preschool, cook dinners, etc.
And the fact that all he had to say was “I’m sorry that you feel that way” just goes to prove how much of an ass he is. He should be grateful that he has the privilege of being with you instead of treating you like you are his property.
I hope that things get easier for you and you find a wonderful man for you and your children. You deserve all the happiness in the world.
Post # 14
Good for you. No one deserves to be treated like that.
Post # 15
You deserve better and you are strong for being able to stand up and demand that for yourself. You’re going to be okay 🙂 Hug those kiddos extra tight, because needing to be a mom above all else is going to help you get through this.
Post # 16
Good for you for doing what you feel is right. Don’t settle for less than what you feel you deserve. Keep us updated if you need support.