(Closed) i just need a little reassurance :(

posted 7 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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5892 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2012

your wedding is in the past.  i think there’s no use in spending any more time thinking about this.  you’ll drive yourself nuts and it really isn’t that big of a deal considering the rest of the day went off perfectly.

Post # 5
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Newbee

@sugar610: Some people have the cake fall off the cake table, some people have that weirdo Aunt that gets drunk off her butt and makes a spectical of herself and some people have bridesmaids in different color dresses… In the end, count it as a memory that you can (and should) laugh at. It was an oversight, it happened, oh well… But you had an amazing day with the man you love. There are worse things, sugar! Hope you feel better!

Post # 6
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2010

I can write you a four page list of all the things that went wrong at our wedding. Some of them are really really really bad things that are leading to a lawsuit. BUT you know what, what happened happened. There’s nothing I can do to change it. At the end of the day, I got married to the man I love and the people I loved were there with us. The bad stuff I’ll deal with with my lawyer, but the great stuff is way more important to me!

Post # 7
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172 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: March 2011

Could you tell your friends that it’s not a big deal to you, but that you get sensitive when they bring it up?  Perhaps they think they are being understanding and helpful and just need to be redirected. I’m so sorry to hear about the mix-up, but it sounds like you have handled it really well.

By the way, congratulations on your wedding/marriage!

Post # 8
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29 posts
Newbee
  • Wedding: July 2011

First and foremost, congratulations on your wedding! Your friend didn’t mean any harm with her comment, I’m sure. I feel that maybe she was actually trying to make you feel better about it, in some way or another. I would not have approached it the way she did, however. I say you somehow bring this up to your friend and just laugh it off by using some of the examples stated above of things that could have REALLY gone wrong at your wedding! Show her that it really wasn’t that big of a deal (which it wasn’t)! As for your sister-in-law, I say you give her a call and talk about how great the wedding was and what not. I feel that this will help things get back to normal and you guys can move on from this, happily! 🙂

Post # 10
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35 posts
Newbee
  • Wedding: February 2011

That is lame that it happened. Great that the photographer can fix it in some of the pictures too. One day I bet you guys will laugh that off.. Or I hope you can! I don’t think that is an awful thing that happened.. compared to what else could have happened.

You know she didn’t do that on purpose that it was a misunderstanding!

Congrats on the wedding!

Post # 11
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34 posts
Newbee
  • Wedding: July 2009

we had our groomsmen (our brothers) wear tuxes, vests, white shirts and neck ties. my DH’s brothers didn’t own tuxes so we bought them everything except the white shirt. we sent his brothers instructions to wear a plain, collared white shirt and a link to Amazon with an example of what we wanted. DH’s youngest brother showed up at the church wearing a tuxedo shirt which looked ridiculous with the neck tie. now I look at our pictures and just have to roll my eyes — it looks so bad it kind of makes me giggle.

all that to say that you’ll get over it — if that was the only thing that went wrong then you did pretty well. just like my BIL, your SIL didn’t do it on purpose and what’s done is done, sounds like it was a pretty subtle difference in color (if you couldn’t notice from a distance.

Post # 12
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2011

this happened to my best friend….except she was the one who showed up in the wrong color dress.  the store made a mistake and gave her a much lighter shade of brown.  She felt so bad but the bride was unphased and said it was no big deal.  and it really isn’t.  at the end of the day you had the people who matter most up there with you.  who cares if one of them had a different color dress.  No this has become a fun/funny story that we tell in our circle.  but at no point were we “horrified” by the situation.  we thought it was funny more than anything else.

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