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I'm sorry you the universe is being so cruel to you right now! It really can be a bitch, yeah?
I've also noticed that often times, when something's got to give, something will. So, right when you're about to lose it, the universe gives you something to help you along and keep you going! Just remember that!
I totally agree with Tunacupcakes, it always seems like the universe gives us just what we need right when we're about to freaking crack! I got to the point you were at and my SO could tell I was getting antsy and he said "you're getting to ultimatum stage soon huh?" I said no, not ultimatum, but something's got to change and he asked me for my timeline. In my head I thought 12 months, but figured I should low-ball it because 12 leaves so much room. I said 8 months and he shocked me totally and agreed it was reasonable for him!! I highly recommend something like that. I was completely surprised because a mere 5 months before that, he was nowhere (and I mean nowhere) near engagement being something to talk about. Your SO may surprise you just like mine did.
:( I'm just here to commiserate with you! Waiting sucks!
The universe is kicking me in the shins lately too. Blegh! it gets so hard and so frustrating and the guys just never seem to get it. I can't give much advice but I can commiserate. Shits hard! I was hoping by May and now I'm not so sure. If I had to wait until Christmas I think I'd have an emotional breakdown. Stay strong and know were all going through it and so many others have already gone through it.
@LaurenK0105: I hope so! I'm definitely going to talk to him about this this weekend. It won't come out of left field either...we're both at a stage where our life paths are materializing/taking shape (I just quit my retail job to search for an internship in my field, he is graduating in May and has a job lined up to start immediately after that, I graduate in June and will be on the career path, we have an apartment together, etc.) and we both know that we do want to get married. So it'll be less OMG I WANT AN ENGAGEMENT RING WHINE WHINE and more, "So, I've been thinking about the future a lot lately, and I want to know specifically what your ideal vision is..."
Maybe the universe has been slapping me in the face with weddings so much lately not to torment me, but to say HEY, it's time to have that talk with SO, for real this time! I can only hope...
@MsBrooklynA: Haha well I only want to wait until Christmas because a Christmas proposal is my absolute dream. I am willing to wait that long for it just to fulfill that dream. I might go crazy until then...but it will be so worth it to me! If it doesn't happen this Christmas though I don't know if I'll want to wait until next Christmas...THAT would be too long even for me.
Hugs hugs hugs. Jealousy sucks.
My fiance's younger brother got engaged after we were supposed to already be engaged and their wedding is this month!
I'm glad he did propose before then...
but I understand the jealousy. It will pass. Let yoursefl wallow in it, but don't talk about it to people you know, so then they can't bring it up later.
Treat yourself to something you like (bubble bath, pretty hike, new shirt, whatever).
No worries.
Aww *hugs* I'm sorry the world is being so cruel right now. I feel the same way sometimes and it sucks big time. I hope the two of you that can come up with a timeline you are both happy with. He may even surprise you with an earlier timeline than what you were thinking. Good luck and let us know how it goes.
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Waiting has gotten SO HARD lately, ugh. It is on my mind constantly!
in the past month...
-Two of the ladies I used to work with got engaged
-One day I came into work and they and another married coworker were all trying on each others' engagement rings and laughing about how different their ring sizes were...I felt so left out! I wanted to have a ring to contribute to the pool of weird ring sizes!
-Two weekends ago SO and I were watching some Cosby Show and the episode where Denise throws a bridal shower for her friend came on...all I could think was I can't wait until that's me!
-Last weekend we were watching again and the episode where Sandra and Elvin announce their engagement...I teared up because I was so happy for them (lame, because I've watched almost every episode of Cosby so obviously I knew they were married), and then felt that pang of jealousy that I'm sure you all have felt...also lame, because...why am I jealous of a fictional couple??
-Last weekend we were at a local conservatory and as we were leaving there was a wedding about to start. The bride was standing in the lobby with various bridal party members and the photographer...and we had to walk right through their group to exit
Universe, why are you trying so hard to rub it in my face CONSTANTLY that I'm not engaged yet? Not to mention the dreams of being married/getting engaged I've been having lately.
And of course SO's response to all these things has been fairly blasé. He's starting to react/care a little more about wedding/marriage related things, but I know he isn't thinking in concrete timelines yet. (The most we've discussed is "In the next five years, probably on the shorter end of that, when [he's] able to afford things".)
It's so frustrating. I am so in love with this man and just want to be able to feel and share that happiness and excitement that only a proposal can bring. I want to be married to him and to start our life together.
He's coming to visit me this weekend...I think I might gently broach the subject with him then and see if he is on the same page as my thoughts for a timeline (Christmas proposal this year, Summer 2013 wedding), or if we can hash out something we're both happy with. I just can't wait any longer, it feels like word vomit every time I'm around him, and I've kept it in for too long.
Thanks for listening...