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Wow, I'm really sorry. Have you ever tried to communicate this with her? hugs to you.
*hugs* I'm really sorry she's not excited about your wedding. Is there a particular reason, like maybe she's so nervous she can't be excited? Or she doesn't like some of the decisions you've made? I'M excited about your wedding!!!
((HUGS)) was she excited about your photobooth? I'm sorry you had to go through this :(
Thanks guys! I knew y'all would make me feel better! 
@KmSull - I really don't know how to explain it...my mom just isn't a very emotional person. She can't be upset about any of the decisions, because she really hasn't been interested in hearing about them. To give you a comparison, when my sister got married it was more or less a forced decision (because she was living with her now-husband before marriage, which was unacceptable to my parents), and she didn't really get anything she wanted for her wedding at all. My parents literally didn't spend a cent on it and weren't emotional or anything about it - it was a completely legal thing that they made her do just to keep up appearances. My mom has just never been very good at showing excitement/emotion about anything going on in my life - only the things in other people's lives!
@crebre - actually, it was kind of amusing. I mentioned we were technically having a fauxtobooth because the real ones are so expensive, and I was telling her all about it and she was like "oh well we got to actually get our picture printed at this wedding and we got to take them home" - like theirs was way better than mine will be! I'm at the point now, looking back on it, that it's kind of just funny, but I was really mad when she said it.
Amanda.lynn, I feel your pain. Boy, do I ever!
My mother, who HATES weddings, went to a family friend's wedding and raved about it (just after we were engaged). It was so beautiful, the bride was gorgeous, the dinner was lovely, blah blah blah...
Whenever I bring mine up, she acts like it's the dumbest thing ever, questions all the etiquette (why can't I show people what you'll be wearing and tell my friends about it before you decide who to invite?), and thinks the whole thing is an uneccesary expense (we're paying for it). She has even, in her not-finest hour, called the wedding "making a spectacle of ourselves." It's clear from her tone of voice that she is NOT in anyway happy or excited about the wedding. She doesn't want to be in it, either.
Huh??
We're really close, so this hurts. A lot! My FMIL is WAY more excited about the wedding than my own mom! Too bad she lives 3,000 miles away.
My mom will give me advice (like about fabrics) if asked, but it's grudging. She is not at all excited. She likes my fiance, but she practically eloped and so did her mom. My dad is abroad right now, but my mom, who has almost always been there for me, just doesn't want to hear about it.
Thank goodness for weddingbee! You and I can be 2011 buddies AND 'our moms don't care about our weddings' buddies.
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Oops. I don't want to hijack your post! But KMSull is right: I want to know about your wedding! And I'm excited for you AND your fauxtobooth!!
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@Miss Sequoia - I'm glad to hear I'm not the only one dealing with an unenthusaistic mother, haha!
I'm with KMSull...I'm also excited for your wedding!!!!! I'm sorry your mother is being so unsupportive of your planning and wedding in general. If there's little to do about changing your mum's excitement level, you need to surround yourself with others who are happy for you. WB is probably a good place to start with that.
sigh.. let me tell you a secret, i took pictures in a photobooth and the colors made me look like sh!t.. I think the fauxtobooths are much better lighting wise. are you printing them out in on a digi camera?
I'm sorry that your mother doesn't seem to care about the wedding. You and your FI care along with all the girls here at weddingbee!
Amanda.lynn --
I am so very sorry that this is happening to you, but I am so happy that your sister is there to support you. Have you talked to your mom about how her reactions make you feel? The reason I ask is because I went through this lack of enthusiasm with my mom. As soon as I brought it up to her it was like it flipped a switch and now she is more involved in the planning. Her rationale was that because I am very picky/determined/analytical, she was afraid to put in input. She did not realize how much it meant that she be involved. Maybe your mom just doesn't realize how much you would appreciate her support? And if she does, then it is her loss not to be more involved with such a special time in your life.
I hope it all works out for the best!!
@crebre - Yeah, our photographer is going to have a digital camera set up and they won't actually be printed AT the wedding, but my FI and I will have them all on a disk so if anyone wants their photos we are going to have a little card to just tell them to ask us and we'll print them for them. We wanted to be able to have them printed at the wedding, but it's just so dang expensive!
Awww! I'm sorry! That's why you have us (as much as you'd rather have your mom)-we're here for you! :)
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So, since the moment I have gotten engaged I have had problems with my mom and her complete lack of enthusiasm for ANYTHING wedding-related. She really just doesn't care! The only reason I've been able to make it through it without going nuts is that my sister knows exactly how I feel and has been through the same sort of thing, so she can empathize with me.
Anyways, for the three months that I have been engaged, my mom basically couldn't care less about talking wedding stuff with me - it really just seems to stress her out and she really just doesn't seem excited. So, whatever - I can deal with that because I have my sister to be excited and I can always come here and find support too!
So, last weekend my mom went to a wedding (which happened to fall on the day I got my college ring, which is a HUGE deal at the college I go to - she chose the wedding over my ring day), and then the next day I got to listen to her for HALF AN HOUR gushing about how amazing the wedding was and how they did this and that, and it was just so amazing! It was just really annoying to hear her going on and on about how awesome this wedding was when she doesn't even care about mine! I think another reason it bothered me is that the wedding was for her best friend's niece, and I (and my sister) have always felt like she cares more about her best friend's family than she does her own (exhibit a: she went to the wedding before the most important day in my college career so far).
It really irritated me when she started gushing about the photobooth they had at the wedding and I had to say "Um, mom, we're having a photobooth too..." - and she had NO IDEA because she doesn't ever care to ask or talk about any of it with me!!
Anyways, sorry this is so long... I just needed to vent a little...it's just kind of hurtful to see my other friend's getting married whose mom's are SO excited, compared to my own who really couldn't seem to care less!