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I gave two weeks notice at work today and I'm a little panicked about this.  I was starting to feel so incredibly stressed, and my stress was increasing each day as the wedding got closer.  Now the wedding is 4 months away and I just don't think I can sustain this for four months!  I'm starting to look run down and I'm not performing as well. So I Quit---ahhhhh!

 Before I got engaged, I basically liked my job.  After I got engaged, I couldn't focus on a thing at work, and I was up all hours of the night doing wedding stuff.  It had gotten to the point where my work performance was suffering because I was constantly distracted by calls from vendors...etc.  

My fiance does quite well financially, so I don't necessarily "need" to work.  I was an hourly admin worker with no benefits.  I took this job a few months ago.  At the time, I wasn't engaged and felt restless.  The job was really just for a little extra spending money and something to keep me busy.  I'm not on a "career track" per se.

I really do think I made the right decision, but I wonder if I'm going to regret this five months down the road, when the wedding is over.  I know I can always get another job after we're married and moved into our new place.  But it's still sad to leave a job where I liked my co-workers.

Also, my parents and some of my friends are being terribly unsupportive of my choice.  They think I'm irresponsible and not being an "independent woman" or something and that I just need to "calm down" and learn betting coping skills.

My fiance is supportive.  I think he preferred that our not work and be relaxed and happy before the wedding.  Like I said, my income really wasn't affecting our financial picture by much.

Oh, I won't get another job until after the wedding, for sure.  I am living with my parents right now, until the wedding, since it was a weird gap time between a lease and when fiance and I move into our new condo.  We'll buy it this summer and move our stuff in, but probably won't both "live" there until after the wedding (we're traditional sorts...)

Also, fiance isn't "sugar-daddying" me right now.  I have plenty of savings that will sustain me for 6 months to a year, especially with my living at home now and saving rent $$$. 

I think you should do what makes you happy.  But as a woman, I think you should still have a job/career (wait until post-wedding as you have the luxury of being able to).  If something should happen to your husband, or your marriage (touch wood it won't)? What if your husband was made redundant or his company went down the toilet? You need to be prepared to support yourself and your family.

You're so lucky!  In fact, Americans, you're all lucky.  In New Zealand a couple/family cannot survive on one income.  Well, unless their partner earns a wad of cash.  The average person earns NZ$45,000 per year which is about USD$32,000.  That's before tax.  Considering the average power bill is about $200 and then double that in winter, and rent on a 3 bedroom house even in slums is about $400 per week, then you can bet that you'll need more than one income.  I haven't even touched on food, phones, travel, car, etc.

I wish I had been born in a country where a woman had the option of being a stay-at-home mum without having to marry a rich specialise private practice doctor or defence lawyer. ;)

So maybe my advice would be ENJOY IT!!!  But do remember that life is short, anything could happen and you need to be prepared.

Good luck for your wedding :)

I plan to find another admin job in the fall, once I figure out where we are living.  The job I had was a great company and nice people, but with a 40 minute commute, I was working/driving 7 hours a day for $60/day.  My fiance told me that was nuts.