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Why not give him a date? It seems like he doesn't want to commit to that, so you should take the reigns again (kudos for proposing to him--how awesome!) and just TELL him, "This month/date or this one, pick."
Ha that sounds like a good idea! I could give him 3 different month/date combos and he should choose the one he likes. I'll just give him my top 3...what a great idea...
well...maybe only 2...3 is a BIT much :)
I'm all for minimizing the number of decisions the guy has to make! FH is one to say "Whatever you want is fine," so I've done this a few times and it works like a charm. ;)
I know how frustrating this can be. I make descions very easily, but on of my BF's has a hard time figuring out what to eat . Her original wedding date was suppose to be 7/7/7 but since neither one of them could decide on anything it's not TBD.
What about narrowing it down to a few dates that you like and then making him chose one of them?
Ok, it's settled...I'll pick...3...dates and he can choose which one he like best...but knowing him he'll say which one do YOU like best and I'll say which one and he'll be like, but I like this one better...what a dork
@thisismeAXiD: We took a few important factors and used them to help us decide. A) Budget -- how much do we need to save to afford the wedding we want and how much time do we need to save? B) What kind of event do we want? Casual, semi-formal, formal? Indoors or outdoors or a mix of both? C) Keeping in mind the feel we want for our wedding, do we need the weather to somewhat cooperate? We live in FL and in July/August, we tend to have pretty rainy afternoons.
These factors helped us narrow down 12 months to just 3. Good luck! My husband sounds just as indecisive as your FI! He never seems to have an opinion...
For us, we need to go the other way around. Pick the day first then the type of event we want, butdget wise I just think summer is completely out of our budget, on the other hand we live in Wisconsin.
FH already told me to pick out my perfect wedding dress and we'll plan the entire wedding around it. :)
You could also try just picking a season first, and then choosing your venue. Sometimes the venue will already have certain dates filled and that will narrow things down a bit! Or if it's outdoors, certain months are ruled out right away because of being too hot or too cold.
@ rolling berry Good idea! I guess I never even thought of that...
On that note, we need to determine if we want to get married where we live (where my fam is from), where his fam is from (across the state), somewhere we used to live (long distance for everyone), mutual gound (somewhere in the middle), or somewhere we just wanna get married (dw)...blah
TKE, I thought of the frat right away when I read your post!!! I am originally from there.
Mrs.Kessletobe Actually St. Norbert College for TKE and Alpha Xi Delta
oh duh, I should have thought a little more about that. I suppose Patteville isn't the only TKE:)
@thisismeAXiD: Yeah, all those are important and you might want to make those decisions before picking the exact date! That's how we did it. We chose our venue first (that took a while on its own) We had a particular officiant in mind as well, and she also had limitations on what dates she was available. Then when we finally had a date picked out, we asked some of our closest family and friends if they had any conflicts with that date, just to make sure.
If you're able to commit to general timeframe (say Spring), you can decide on the other pieces that are important to you, and then choose a date from there!
All very valid points. I keep forgetting that it's not just me, it's FH, family, venues, officiants, etc. oh jeesh
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So a little bit of backgroud may be necessary:
Mr.TKE and I have been together since May 2007. I proposed to him in Feb 2008. We lived in seperate cities and knew right away it would be a longer engagement. So we didn't start planning or anything.
Fast-forward to 1 month ago. We finally decided on 2012 as our wedding year after narrowing it down from sometime before we die, to sometime between 2010 and 2020, to sometime before 2015. So we're definitely on the right path.
Because I am completely indeceisive by nature (so is FH) I have already started trying on wedding gowns just to see what I like and don't like.
Ok, now for my vent:
I have been trying to get FH on this whole wedding planning thing because, as previously stated, we're terrible at making decisions. I'm like we really should set at least a month for our wedding so I can start thinking about colors/venues/(more specific) dresse, etc. FH is like oh, well then not January or December. I'm like SERIOUSLY!! That still leaves 10 months of indecision.
He keeps telling me that yes, we will get married in 2012 but he can't even seriously talk about wedding planning. I mean, I could do all the planning, I just need a month...A MONTH!!! But he gives me nothing. Everytime we try talking about weddings it makes him cringe and walk away. &%#$%$#%$& seroiusly I've had it up to *here* with this!!!!
Ok, that feels much better...Just breathe, Meredith, seriously :Z