Post # 1
So, I could use a little vent-fest with you ladies, and I was wondering if anyone else is feeling the same! Post wedding, all I want to do is play house. I want to do all this stuff for my hubby, I want to finish the renovations we started a year ago and haven’t finished, I want to learn new recipes and bake things all the time, I want to clean and organize and really start building our “home” (We didn’t live together before, and this was his house, and I want to make it ours), etc etc. BUT- I’m in grad school full time and working part time and I am super stressed to the max and I don’t have time for ANYTHING!! I’m having such a hard time managing everything I have to do with everything I want to do. Not to mention just down-time with the man! It’s awful because I just want to ENJOY this time and instead, it’s horrifically busy! Is anyone else in this situation, and how are you coping?
Post # 3
I came up with a really neat way to spend time with my FI. Once a month we make a pizza together. It’s simple, bakes quickly and doesn’t require hours of prep or clean up. The pizza crust and sauce are premade, I buy the grated cheese, chop up our veggies and cook any meats and we assemble it together. We really enjoy it and it is so satisfying to make something together.
Post # 4
@ pocketprincess – What a clever idea!
@ monalisa670 – I would suggest picking something you WANT to do, and take time out for yourself every day to do it. If it’s baking something, fix it and put it in the oven while you study. Even if it’s just 30 min or an hour, it’ll help you feel less stressed and happier. If you have to, pencil yourself in for ‘your time’ in your calendar so you don’t just gloss over it and end up doing something else. Make a list of the things you want to do (baking, decorating, etc) and do something or part of something each day (if it’s decorating, then maybe go shopping for stuff one day for your hour). 🙂 Although life gets busy, it’s important to take time out for yourself and for your husband.
Post # 5
I’m sorry to hear this 🙁 It really sucks that you’re so busy that you’re not able to enjoy this time as you’d like.
Post # 6
I feel like I’m going to be in the same boat right after my wedding–I’m already in that boat and we’re not married!
I think what Bella suggested might work for you, but maybe not every day–I mean, I know an hour of time everyday is IMPOSSIBLE when you’re in school and professors are throwing things at you left and right. I’m full time in school but only work part time, and it’s hard enough!
When are your classes, exactly? At night/on weekends, or do you have certain days free? Do you have certain times of the day free? Even if you don’t, there’s still ways to stay connected throughout the day. If you want to play house, make yours and his lunches everyday, and throw a note in. You’ll feel domestic and make sure he’s eating healthy, and he’ll get sweet notes everyday! On the weekends, tackle one major project for 3-4 hours: painting a room, framing and hanging wedding pictures, shopping for decor.
Post # 7
I totally get what you’re saying. I’m a grad student too, working on my dissertation, on the job market, planning a wedding, long distance relationship…..and all I’d really love to do is go for a long hike on the weekends and learn to cook a few new recipes.
But I try to remind myself, grad school is a temporary thing. You have many years ahead to cook and finish renovating and all of the other super fun things you’d love to do with your sweetie. I think part of grad school too is learning how to balance life and work – you get more efficient at the work part so you have more time for the fun parts.
And I’m guessing that you’re in grad school because you’re reaching for a goal that’s important to you, it’s ok if you’re not working on all of your goals at the same time! Though it is totally normal to wish you were doing something fun and homey instead of studying.
Definitely trying to convince myself here as much as I’m trying to reassure you! Hang in there.
Post # 8
Thanks for the support, ladies! I know I need to just make time to do the things that I want to do but it’s a lot easier said than done when I’ve got so much going on! Anyway thanks again for the advice 🙂