- 7 years ago
- Wedding: October 2011
Call me crazy, but that’s all I want. That’s all I have ever wanted. For me, it’s never been about the wedding or all the planning and details involved, it has been about the act of reciting vows and pledging my life with the man I love before God. That’s it.
My fiance and I really want to do a destination wedding – just the two of us. Then we would have a reception for family and friends when we return. Sounds easy enough but I keep going over in my mind how hurt our familiy would be to not be there. He isn’t worried at all. I wish I was as strong! He says “our wedding, our decision. They will get over it.” True but facing them and telling them we are getting married alone and will show them the video just seems harsh and I don’t want to hurt anyone. At the same, I don’t want my family’s desires to trump my future husband.
When I envision my wedding day, I picture putting on my dress, shoes, makeup, fixing my hair, grabbing my bouquet and going to marry the man of my dreams. I want to be totally in the moment and not fussing and worrying over everyone else and all the details. Getting married is such a deep and personal thing for me, I don’t want it overshadowed my things that really aren’t important.
On the other hand, a part of me wants my mom and sis there to share in this very special moment for me. Honestly, if me and FI went to the courthouse and brought our immediately family to witness us exchange vows and then he and I jetted off to our fabulous honeymoon and renewed our vows, then came back and did a reception/party for friends…I would be a very happy lady.
Am I all over the place? lol. For those who are married or considering something similar, please provide some insight! Thanks 🙂