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I just want to give up!!

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    mssocks    October 10, 2010  

    We've looked at over twenty venues.  TWENTY.  We've seen it all--the high end of the spectrum and the low end...places right outside our neighborhood and places over an hour and a half away.  Vineyards, Restaurants, Mansions, Manors, Inns, Parks, you name it, we've seen it.

    And while many have been nice, we haven't found IT.  The place that is close enough, reasonable enough, cozy enough, convenient enough for us.  I've even been scouring the internet for vacation rentals in our area to see if we can rent an estate for a weekend!

    I don't feel like we're being picky, I think we just have a specific vision.  And ALL of our guests will be coming from out of town, so it seems like every time we find a place that we might like, it's too inconvenient to get to/not close enough to the airport.

    Looking for a place to get married has been my second job for months now and I still haven't had success!  Has anyone else had this difficulty or are we being too picky/unrealistic in our vision?

     
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    Laylabelle    November 7, 2009  

    Oh no!! Don't give up! Maybe just take a break for awhile. It took us 6 months to find a venue and we looked EVERYWHERE. I felt just like you did, I promise. I finally kinda threw my hands up and took a break and someone mentioned a place and well.. it became my venue!!! Seriously, maybe just take a small break from it. It can be overwhelming, which makes the process even harder and more stressful. Good luck!!

     
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    PurdueGrace    October 10, 2009   IN/PA

    It is very rare the PERFECT venue is out there. Maybe you and your FH should sit down together and make a list of things that are important to you for the venue and rank them and talk about each venue you've seen and if see what ones have the top priorities and take it with you to any other venues you see. Good luck!

     
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    jennifer_espos    June 18, 2010   NYC

    Oh gosh, I know the frustration.  We didn't look at as many venues but we went to a lot.  And each one had pro's and con's, none of them struck us as PERFECT.  It was really difficult to make the decision.  We tossed and turned at night, I literally made a pro's and con's list of them and carried them with me everywhere, I'd ask everyone I knew to help, I even asked strangers.  In the end, we just kinda said "screw it, we have to get married somewhere".  You may just get to that point too.  But being convenient for our guests did rank number one.  Good luck! 

     
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    mamabell       Southern Cali

    @mssocks:

    take a look at The Madison Restaurant in Long Beach California, its open for 10/10/10 and is gorgeous.  Have no idea where you live, but this is a great location and is open as we had to change our plans.

     
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    menobride    June 5, 2011   NH

    I agree- make a list of the things that you are looking for, then rank them in order of importance. For us, the food is the most important aspect (FI is a chef)...but for you, maybe it's location. Anyway, I think that you probably can't find every single thing, but maybe if you really think it out on paper, that will help.

    It is frustrating, I agree!

     

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