Post # 1
I have been contemplating this for a while, because I thought I was being, well, completely sterotypical “bride” in my varying reactions to the use of this phrase by my FI. But, here’s where I come out on my groom-to-be’s use of this little phrase:
1. When I’m stressing out and overwhelmed about life and wedding planning in the macro or when venting because People are Weird About Weddings, it is sweet and helpful and makes me feel better.
2. When I’m stressing out about needing help with specific details and making specific choices and discussing things like red napkins/white tablecloths versus red napkins/red tablecloths it is a really big f-in cop out.
That’s it. End of mini-vent.
Anyone else’s FI say this frequently?
Post # 3
Mine does! Especially every time I stress out or fuss about him not being very involved in the planning process! And its driving me nuts.. Its great that he wants to marry me but I’m getting so frustrated with him during the planning its ruining the excitement! (Sorry I’m so frustrated with him today!)..
Post # 4
I am actually the one who asks him everyday if he’s willing to walk away from all of it. Let’s just accept losing our deposits, walk away from the stress and go elope.
Oh and I must add…he is VERY involved in the planning. Since he is the one who wants the big ol wedding, due from him on Feb 28th are contracts for cake, DJ and tuxes.
Post # 5
Every. single. day.
One day I blew up at him and told him to stop saying that, and he stopped. For like a week.
He always says ‘lets just go to the courthouse…’
Post # 6
Hee. I’m so glad I’m not the only one.
Post # 7
I’ve actually never heard mine say that. I think he wants this to be a kick-a$$ party as much as I do 🙂 So he’s willing to help on the big stuff. Little details, though, a lot of the time he’ll just say he has no preference.
I think using the “I just want to marry you” when you’re stressed about details is just their way of saying “I don’t care” and being unhelpful. They just think that by saying it like that they will both get out of doing whatever it is you want them to help you with and also that you will think its sweet.
Post # 8
My FI and I both say “I just want to get married” every time we run into an issue with the planning. Neither of us really wanted to have a whole wedding; we were all set for city hall and were somehow talked into the bigger wedding by our parents. I know our wedding will be an amazing day, but sometimes I wonder if it’s worth all the stress it has caused us.
Post # 9
We both say this.
It helps us keep our heads when we’re stressing, because as awesome as all the little things may be, the one thing that matters is that we’ll be family 🙂
Post # 10
@iRun2004: All. the.freakin’.time.
It’s so annoying/sweet at the same time. Grrrrr!