- Broken Biscuit
- 6 years ago
- Wedding: September 2012
I need to be isolated right now and vent before I starting spitting fire…
I can’t help but be mad after all the s**t she has put me through for the past 2 years. My fiancé and I announced that we were having a destination wedding 2 years ago.
Initially everyone was very excited except for my older sister, let’s call her “Vicky” for the sake of not calling her out on her crap on the internet. Vicky had been moaning and groaning about not wanting to go to Hawaii for my wedding. She kept freaking out about volcanos. I tried to tell her that there are no volcanos on the island we will be on. Then she freaked out about hurricanes and asked if “we will be on high ground” and preceded to say that she didn’t really want to go to Hawaii and be trapped on an island in 2012 because the world was going to end. WTF!!!!!!!
Now my sister is a freakazoid. She WAS one of those people who freaked out about Y2K and came home with enough toilet paper and water to last us (herself)….well a week…but she seemed to think in could get her through the crisis. Understanding her paranoia I told her that it was okay if she didn’t come to my wedding and that I didn’t want her to feel unsafe. She seemed to be bothered that I didn’t kick, scream, and cry for her to attend. She then told me “I’ll be there whether you want me to or not”.
Fast forward to one year out when I sent out the save the date cards. I get a call from Vicky asking “are you going to make me a bridesmaid”. I then explained to her that because our wedding would be so small (I like “intimate” better) that my fiancé and I did not want to have a wedding party.
Well, 6 months of her hassling me to be a bridesmaid I caved. I decided to make both of my sisters bridesmaids because it was only fair. Well Vicky had a problem with our older sister “Tiffany” being a bridesmaid as well because Tiffany didn’t make Vicky a bridesmaid in her wedding. I was the flower girl because at the time I was like 7 or something. She complained about my decision and we got into a huge fight but after time I guess she just dealt with it.
THEN, after we sent out our wedding invitations, she called to giver her RSVP. She told me that she wanted TWO dinners which are $95 a pop! I told her no, that it was too expensive, and unfair to the other guest.
So later I pick their dresses and I tell her that this is what you and Tiffany will be wearing. She replies to me “I thought I was maid of honor” which pissed me off because we never discussed that and I never asked her to be MOH. She thought that as self-proclaimed MOH that she should have a different dress than Tiffany….whatever, I wanted them to be the same dress.
A few months ago she dropped out of my wedding because I didn’t answer any of her phone calls or text messages. The missed calls in my phone were all from Wednesday morning at:
Call 3- 8:19am
Call 2- 8:19am
Call 1- 8:18am
As well as a text message telling me that because I did not answer her calls she would not be attending my wedding at…wait for it…..8:22am!
It’s not like I ignored her for days or even weeks but we are talking about a matter of MINUTES on a weekday while I was in the friggin shower getting ready to head out while already running late!
She changed her mind again after we talked and I asked her to please reconsider I was in the shower and it was just a misunderstanding. We went shopping for dresses (which was not easy) and settled on one that both girls agreed on.
Their dresses are here, which I paid for because both of my sisters waited to tell me that neither one of them had the money for their dress while ordering the darn things at the d**n shop! Mind you both of them drove up to meet me in a different state. WTF you could not have said something before you jumped in your cars and drove for 2 hours!!!!!! Typical….
Well ladies my wedding is 76 days away and Vicky has changed her mind about going to my wedding AGAIN! She has not purchased her tickets unlike she said 3 months ago when she supposedly booked her flight and hotel accommodations. She says she never got them because she spent all her money on a man who is engaged to another woman!
I am upset because at this point I’m locked into $75 for her bouquet, $95 for her dinner, $150 for her dress, $250 for her hair, makeup, and nails, $112 for her daughter’s FG dress (she didn’t have $ for that either), $40 for her FG basket, $15 on FG’s hair bows, and $25 for FG’s dinner. Not to mention the priceless disappointment and level of stress she has put me and my niece through. My niece is devastated that she won’t be FG anymore.
Right now I’m really depending on the kindness of my vendors to adjust our contract agreement which my deadline has already passed. So far I haven’t been able to get them to deduct the expenditures for my sister. I talked to Vicky on the 30th to make sure everything was good because my vendor’s deadlines were 31st and 1st. It’s the 3rd now and she screwed me over…once again.
I wonder what changed in those few days since she gave me her definitive answer that she was going? Is she just out to get me? Am I overreacting? I might be able to make something work with my vendors but right now I have a migraine and I’m hurt that my sister, who was also my second best friend after FI of course, would play with my emotions.
I just want to punch her in her face.