(Closed) I just want to talk about it to him all the time!

posted 5 years ago in Waiting
Post # 3
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Blushing bee

I am right there with you.  I want to bring it up EVERY DAY.  Luckily SO doesn’t get bothered by my nagging, though I have tried to back off the past few months.  Seriously, every night we talk and I just want to say “WHEN IS IT HAPPENING ALREADY??” Thankfully I almost always talk myself out of it 🙂

Post # 4
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2012

Just be careful about bringing it up. My brother’s ex would constantly ask him when they’d be getting engaged. They never did. They dated for 5 years. 

So a subtle hint here & there is ok. But don’t push it. 

Good luck!

Post # 5
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Newbee
  • Wedding: October 2013

I was there with you girls and don’t get me wrong! I did ask several times. But eventually when i basically got over the idea of getting engaged at every important date (birthday, thanksgiving, christmas, nye) I had basically just said “whatever, it’ll happen when it happens.” It Did! He asked me to marry him New Year’s DAY! He wanted to start the year off right and kept telling me that this year would be a great year. So be patient! and enjoy the calm before the chaos (wedding planning)

Post # 6
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2015

i’m with you on this! I wanna talk about it all the time! It’s been 4 weeks since I’ve brought it up. I’m trying to stay strong. Everytime I get the feeling like i may say something i have to bite my tongue

Post # 7
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2014

Come on here and vent about it when you think you’re about to go on a rant to him!

Post # 8
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: January 2013

Don’t bring it up just let it happen, its better to say “when we are married” but don’t say “when are we getting engaged”, you know what I mean. Three years is a normal time frame for dating your not waiting out of the norm. It will happen when it suppose too.

Post # 10
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594 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: March 2013

Thank goodness for wedding bee huh? Here wedding talk is welcomed! It makes shutting up at home easier!

Post # 11
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Bumble bee

I TOTALLY under you! I’ve been waiting for about a year and half now! It is hard and some days are easier/better than others but if you have a trusted friend or you want to post all over the bee, go for it! But I would say if you want to talk to him about it or hint, do it at a MAX once a week.  You can start getting ideas and maybe even make a folder but don’t obsess over it, it will just make you want to bring it up more.  Being on the bee is fantastic and a great way to get rid of the wedding vomit without bugging the crap out of your SO.

Also, when you keep quiet long enough, he will usually bring it up for you and then you can gab about it for awhile, just don’t overwhelm him! If you want, you can look at planning timelines and go about it that way so that you can start to plan and get your wedding fix but still go slow and not freak him out or annoy him.

Good luck and welcome to the bee! We also have a Shut-It-Up Pact that you can join each week as a challenge to keep quiet.  Here is the link: http://boards.weddingbee.com/topic/the-shut-it-up-pact-317-323

Post # 12
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Blushing bee

Oh I hear you – since he brang it up on our 4 year anniversary in early Jan this year I have spoken about it nearly every day! I cant help myself.

So after becoming a ‘bee in waiting’ I decided to join the Shut-It-Up pack and whenever I need to rant/gossip/obsess I am going to come on here instead of talking about it to my partner.

Even my lil sister has told me to stop talking about it – but when it is so near and everyone around you is getting engaged it is so hard not to bring it up!

Post # 13
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Wannabee
  • Wedding: May 2014

yeah,  i agree about not using the engagement word so much while dating. guys freeze up and freak out. they know when its time and they are ready  focus, on long term plans…and being happy in the relationship. the guy will pop the question when he is ready. my mr wonderful took 5 years. i told him three months before id wait a few more years. we are at the right point in our lives to be marrying one another.  

 

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