Post # 1
So for about the past two months or so, after I’ve had a long day at work and my FI calls me to tell me he’s on his way home, I get super annoyed. I’ll be off like an hour or two before he is and when I get home I want nothing to do but lie down or chill relaxing. When he gets off work he wants to call me and ask me what I want to eat, what do I want to cook, what do I want to do but I’m so exausted I don’t even want to think about it.
I know that he does a lot and I try not to be a bitch but I keep getting so frustrated. I try to calm myself down a little bit because I do know that what he’s asking isn’t that big of a deal. I wish I could just be a more excited person when he calls and be like, sure I’ll go make some dinner so we can BOTH relax when you get home.
Post # 3
I think I know what you mean. Sometimes I get home before FI and just want to relax, and when he calls me on his way home just to ‘chat’ I don’t really feel like talking. I want to relax and have a hard time understanding why we need to talk on the phone when he’s going to be home soon anyway.
Post # 4
I know what your mean. I actually get home after BF and he always seems to be able to shower, do the dishes and do some light cleaning before I get there. If I get off before him the only thing I want to do is sit down on the couch check facebook and weddingbee and watch some TV.
The worst is when I have a day off and since I am just starting my photography business and I spend all day long editing photos and he gets home and I feel like such a slob because there is a possible chance the house is messier than when he left. I feel so guilty when that happens. 🙁
Sometimes its the littlest things that make it easier like just throw in a load of laundry. You can still relax but you have started something. Or pick a dinner meal that takes little effort. Maybe something that you can just pop in the oven and bake so it will almost be ready by the time he gets home.
Post # 5
I’m probably guilty of the opposite – after a long day I call my boy on the way home (or on my way to the gym) just to talk and unwind. For me, this is particularly important if I have had a bad day as I like to get all the bad vibes out into the open and off my chest before I get home. That way, when I get home I feel as if I can start relaxing.
That said, my boy gets home about 1.5 hours before me each night and I am still the one that cooks and cleans…so he gets his time to relax before I get home anyway.
Maybe you can look at doing meal plans – that way it is all planned out. We know what we are eating each night and it takes a lot of the stress away. You could also get a slow cooker – just chuck everything into it the night before and turn it on in the morning and dinner is done when you get home that night. Will save you thinking about it and the actual preparation so you can relax.