(Closed) I just wish I could force myself to be a better FI.

posted 8 years ago in Relationships
Post # 3
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

I think I know what you mean. Sometimes I get home before FI and just want to relax, and when he calls me on his way home just to ‘chat’ I don’t really feel like talking. I want to relax and have a hard time understanding why we need to talk on the phone when he’s going to be home soon anyway.

Post # 4
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Sugar bee

I know what your mean. I actually get home after BF and he always seems to be able to shower, do the dishes and do some light cleaning before I get there. If I get off before him the only thing I want to do is sit down on the couch check facebook and weddingbee and watch some TV.

The worst is when I have a day off and since I am just starting my photography business and I spend all day long editing photos and he gets home and I feel like such a slob because there is a possible chance the house is messier than when he left. I feel so guilty when that happens. 🙁

Sometimes its the littlest things that make it easier like just throw in a load of laundry. You can still relax but you have started something. Or pick a dinner meal that takes little effort. Maybe something that you can just pop in the oven and bake so it will almost be ready by the time he gets home.

Post # 5
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2013

I’m probably guilty of the opposite – after a long day I call my boy on the way home (or on my way to the gym) just to talk and unwind. For me, this is particularly important if I have had a bad day as I like to get all the bad vibes out into the open and off my chest before I get home. That way, when I get home I feel as if I can start relaxing.

That said, my boy gets home about 1.5 hours before me each night and I am still the one that cooks and cleans…so he gets his time to relax before I get home anyway.

Maybe you can look at doing meal plans – that way it is all planned out. We know what we are eating each night and it takes a lot of the stress away. You could also get a slow cooker – just chuck everything into it the night before and turn it on in the morning and dinner is done when you get home that night. Will save you thinking about it and the actual preparation so you can relax.

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