I keep changing my mind about my ring!

posted 3 years ago in Rings
Post # 3
2308 posts
Buzzing bee

@happyuphere:  You wouldn’t be the only one. Try the ring on when you pick it up at FedEx. If it doesn’t wow you like a halo would, return it. You will have this ring forever, so it has to be what you want.

If you can’t find exactly what you want, ask Schubach to make it. They are the best custom jewelry people, if you ask me, and you can save a lot of money going the custom route.

Post # 4
6407 posts
Bee Keeper

I find the least wishy-washy brides are the ones who let their FI take the lead on picking the ring. If you take the lead, the second guessing won’t stop even after he’s bought it. Many such brides end up changing their ring over and over and over, never quite satisfied. So, I suggest you hand him the reigns! This is his gift to give you, after all.

Post # 5
214 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2006

I say try the ring on when you pick it up. If you don’t like it, than exchange it. If your FI is all for you picking your ring, which it sounds he is, than go for the halo if you love it more! You will be wearing this for the rest of your life. You should love it.


Post # 7
2100 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

@happyuphere:  I changed my ring out for one that was a little different than the original. To be fair, the one I traded it for was the one I originally picked out. The one I got was a re-created version and while pretty, it just wasn’t quite me. I kept thinking about the other. When I mentioned it to FI he said the only reason he got the one he got was because it was cheaper but would have gotten me the other. So I asked if we could do that and that is what we got. And I love it. We are using the other ring to purchase toward our wedding bands so it’s not wasted money.




I too love the halos! The one up there is quite pretty! If you keep going back to halos, then I say get that.


I couldn’t imagine someone picking this out FOR me. Maybe my good friend but not FI…just because what he would have purchased wouldn’t have been me. Not because he doesn’t know me…but b/c he would have chosen whatever is the most popular. He admitted that. I’m sure I would have loved it b/c it was from him but I would have ultimately needed to be honest if I didn’t love it for me daily (I call it the Princess and the Pea Effect). I couldn’t wear something I just liked ok. I don’t do that in my every day life. Why would I do it now?


Post # 8
570 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 1993

I love your ruby e-ring.  It is beautiful and I love the color of the ruby. 

Post # 9
2661 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2015

I think both rings are stunning, the ruby really pops! But, I think I like your original ring a bit more–it’s a little more unique. And it’s certainly a plus that your FI loves it too!

I know you already said you’re keeping it, but I just wanted to say it’s really beautiful! I love gemstone e-rings!  Congrats on your ring and your engagement!

Post # 10
4494 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

I love the original one!  I think it’s gorgeous and different.

Post # 11
749 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: February 2018

I love the ring you have, So rich & stunning!

Post # 12
1261 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

I was just going to say at least try on the original ring first and then decide…but it looks like you did all that!! It’s beautiful! Honestly, I love halos myself (have a RHR with a halo) but I like your original ring better then the halo one you wanted to get. Congrats!!

Post # 13
2239 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2007

@happyuphere:  Your ruby ering is gorgeous! Congrats! FWIW I like the 5 stone better than the halo 🙂

Post # 15
550 posts
Busy bee

LOVE the ring you wound up with. The halo you liked wasn’t doing it for me (but then, I’m not a fan).

Sometime down the road, you could get a halo with a different stone if you still love the style.

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