Post # 1
Hi ladies. When I first got engaged, we decided to shop around for rings together after the proposal. I never thought I’d be the marrying type so I had never thought much about rings, what I liked, what I didn’t like, etc.–I knew I wanted to do something different (both FH and my birthstone is ruby, so we wanted to definitely get a ruby ring instead of the traditional diamond ring). At first I wanted a solitaire. Then I wanted a three-stone. Then we actually wound up ordering a five-stone ring (which is waiting for me at FedEx to pick up on my way home from work tonight), but the more time I spent reseaching rings in the past three weeks since we ordered it, the more I realized how much I love love love halos! It’s funny because a coworker of mine and I were just discussing how much we didn’t like the halo trend, and then the more I looked at ring porn, the more I started to realize I LOVE the classic beauty! They’re so glamorous.
I’ve decided I would rather have this ring than the one that’s waiting for me. And I’ve made this decision before even SEEING the other ring (I’ve seen it online, but not in person). I’ve never been this indecisive about anything in my life!
We’ve been waiting to announce our engagement because we didn’t have the ring yet, and now this will push back our annoucement even further because we’re ordering from a jeweler in New York. FH is getting frustrated because I keep changing my mind–and I totally get it!–but from my standpoint, this will likely be the most expensive piece of jewelry I ever own, so I want to make sure that I 100% LOVE IT.
What would you do? Did any of you exchange your rings? Am I the only wishy-washy one around here?
For comparison’s sake, this is the ring that I did order:
Post # 3
@happyuphere: You wouldn’t be the only one. Try the ring on when you pick it up at FedEx. If it doesn’t wow you like a halo would, return it. You will have this ring forever, so it has to be what you want.
If you can’t find exactly what you want, ask Schubach to make it. They are the best custom jewelry people, if you ask me, and you can save a lot of money going the custom route.
Post # 4
I find the least wishy-washy brides are the ones who let their FI take the lead on picking the ring. If you take the lead, the second guessing won’t stop even after he’s bought it. Many such brides end up changing their ring over and over and over, never quite satisfied. So, I suggest you hand him the reigns! This is his gift to give you, after all.
Post # 5
I say try the ring on when you pick it up. If you don’t like it, than exchange it. If your FI is all for you picking your ring, which it sounds he is, than go for the halo if you love it more! You will be wearing this for the rest of your life. You should love it.
Post # 6
@joya_aspera: Thanks for the perfect advice. Turns out, FI hates halo rings. I totally disagree with him on this, but I’d hate to wear a ring that he doesn’t love as much as I do. The ring may be on my finger, but it signifies our love. We’re keeping the original ring! He actually teared up when he put it on my finger, and we’ve been engaged for going on 3 weeks now. Love my sensitive man. 😉
Post # 7
@happyuphere: I changed my ring out for one that was a little different than the original. To be fair, the one I traded it for was the one I originally picked out. The one I got was a re-created version and while pretty, it just wasn’t quite me. I kept thinking about the other. When I mentioned it to FI he said the only reason he got the one he got was because it was cheaper but would have gotten me the other. So I asked if we could do that and that is what we got. And I love it. We are using the other ring to purchase toward our wedding bands so it’s not wasted money.
I too love the halos! The one up there is quite pretty! If you keep going back to halos, then I say get that.
I couldn’t imagine someone picking this out FOR me. Maybe my good friend but not FI…just because what he would have purchased wouldn’t have been me. Not because he doesn’t know me…but b/c he would have chosen whatever is the most popular. He admitted that. I’m sure I would have loved it b/c it was from him but I would have ultimately needed to be honest if I didn’t love it for me daily (I call it the Princess and the Pea Effect). I couldn’t wear something I just liked ok. I don’t do that in my every day life. Why would I do it now?
Post # 8
I love your ruby e-ring. It is beautiful and I love the color of the ruby.
Post # 9
I think both rings are stunning, the ruby really pops! But, I think I like your original ring a bit more–it’s a little more unique. And it’s certainly a plus that your FI loves it too!
I know you already said you’re keeping it, but I just wanted to say it’s really beautiful! I love gemstone e-rings! Congrats on your ring and your engagement!
Post # 10
I love the original one! I think it’s gorgeous and different.
Post # 11
I love the ring you have, So rich & stunning!
Post # 12
I was just going to say at least try on the original ring first and then decide…but it looks like you did all that!! It’s beautiful! Honestly, I love halos myself (have a RHR with a halo) but I like your original ring better then the halo one you wanted to get. Congrats!!
Post # 13
@happyuphere: Your ruby ering is gorgeous! Congrats! FWIW I like the 5 stone better than the halo 🙂
Post # 15
LOVE the ring you wound up with. The halo you liked wasn’t doing it for me (but then, I’m not a fan).
Sometime down the road, you could get a halo with a different stone if you still love the style.