Post # 1
I’ll start off with I love my fiance and we have a great relationship. The only problem is I keep having dreams every few months of a guy from my past. We weren’t in a relationship but we were very close and I do miss him. We ended up having a huge blowout over some stuff and I walked away and then I moved to Canada to be with my fiance. I wake up feeling really guilty about the dreams, nothing sexual happens in them and it’s never the same situation.
One night one a nightmare involving him threatening to kill me, there’s been a couple of dreams where we end up kissing, some where I’m yelling at him. Is there any way to stop these? I haven’t seen or talked to him in a year and really just want these dreams gone.
Post # 3
@wisher558: I think the problem here is that you didn’t get any real closure in this relationship and it seems that on some subconscious level, you are needing that. I’m not suggesting reconnecting with him in order to get closure, but it seems like there is still unfinished business between you two in your mind and its manifesting itself through your dreams.
I can’t think of any solutions for that though.
Post # 4
@wisher558: Freud said, “Sometimes a cigar is just a cigar.” But when it comes to dreams, all bets are off and logic does not prevail….I don’t put a lot of stock in dream interpretation, because to me, its a no holds barred brain dump, and anything can and does happen in there.
I’m not resposible for my dreams and they certainly don’t hurt anyone, so I enjoy the occaisional “dream affair” with Darryl from The Walking Dead, chance to be a race car driver in Monaco….where I was actually quite a handsome man and the still horrifyingly scary encounter with Chucky, my childhood nemesis…to remind me that being scared is a visceral part of the human experience….even if it is just a child’s doll…that thing is TERRIFYING.
My advice is to stop judging your brain for doing what it needs to while you’re asleep….