Post # 1
I have had a love/hate relationship with my body and food for a very long time.
Seeing as I’m now less than 5 months away from my wedding and about 1 month out from my first fitting, it’s time to crack down.
I want to lose 20 lbs. I have wanted to lose 20lbs since I got engaged.
I know how to do it, I know what I should eat and what I shouldn’t.
I had a pretty good day yesterday. Had a cookie mid day, but no big deal. Had a nice dinner complete with glass of wine and was only 1point over for the day (I’m on WW).
Then, for some unknown reason, at 9:30pm I made myself a huge bowl of cereal.
I wasn’t hungry, I kept thinking I shouldn’t be doing this, stop, you don’t need this, but I did it anyway.
It was almost like I wasn’t in control of what I was doing.
It seems anytime I feel I’ve had a good day, I do something like that to sabotage it.
Any advice? Help? Thoughts?
I wake up every morning committed and go to bed a failure.
Post # 3
I feel for you, and I know what it’s like! I’ve had so many days like that…and eating when I just KNEW I wasn’t hungry, or that it wasn’t necessary!
The only thing that helped me get over that hump was being held accountable- weighing myself every day or going to weight watchers and getting weighed in front of others every week…etc.
Have you thought of doing something like that? It makes it harder when you know you’ll have to look at the scale the next day,
Post # 4
Ack I do this too!!
I usually write something down to motivate me and post it in the kitchen… and also not having junk food in the house helps me since I won’t go out of my way to feed a craving (although I think it’s more the fact that you ate at 9:30, and not so much what you ate). Give yourself a time limit.. no food after 7:00pm! Also, going by the pics you posted of your hair/makeup trial – you look gorgeous just the way you are!! Good luck!! 🙂
Post # 5
I’m the same way. Sometimes I find it helps if I eat a lot of small snacks during the day. Then I feel like I’ve spent a lot of time munching, so I don’t want to do it anymore. Then “meals” have to be smaller though, which can seem disappointing.
Post # 6
@Evie19: I weigh myself every week on Thursday mornings. I also occasionally weigh myself in between and the scale just keeps going up and up.
Even if I have a really good week, I seem to gain.
I’ve done WW online before and I lost 20lbs and it was almost effortless. I have no idea why it is so much harder this time.
I don’t know if it is because FI is currently working in London (3 weeks there 1 week back) and I’m trying to fill a void, or just feel like it doesn’t matter if I eat at home because “If no one saw me do it, I didn’t eat it.”
Post # 7
Don’t get discouraged. Every day is a new day, just keep trying, and don’t let past “failures” justify straying from your goals even more (I sometimes get this sort of defeatist attitude).
Why do you think you do that? Are you an emotional eater, or do you eat because you are bored? I know it is easier said than done, but try to do something else every time you think of eating when you aren’t hungry. Read a chapter of a book, call someone on the phone, take a walk around the block, etc.
Post # 8
I used to do the same thing! Cereal at night used to be my biggest obstacle. As weird as this sounds it worked for me. I started putting my dog’s treats right next to the cereal and everytime I’d start craving cereal I’d grab the dog treats instead and give them a couple. They loved it of course, and after a couple nights once I’d go into the pantry at night they started to expect the treats and would freak out and “pout” if they didn’t get them. It would break the thought process long enough that I’d realize I didn’t actually NEED the cereal and I could walk away from it.
I’ve read that the best way to get rid of a bad habit is to replace it with a good one. I’ve replaced my nightly bowl of cereal with treats for my dogs. I’m not sure if you have any pets but you can maybe try to replace the cereal with something else that’s a little more healthy.
Post # 9
@leembee: I’ve been trying to eat earlier (and have been successful at having dinner earlier) but the I almost always give in to something else before bed.
Maybe I’ll only let myself have a small glass of skim milk if I HAVE to have something before bed. Or I’ll brush my teeth right after eating.
I’m also going to cut out alcohol for a while (especially on week nights) and see if that helps.
Thanks for the compliment. My parents don’t seem to think that though. My dad wants me to lose 10-15lbs before the wedding because I’d look so much better.
I almost feel like he’s currently embarrassed to walk me down the aisle at the weight I am now.
Post # 10
@floridabride12: That is a really good idea. I have a cat and he LOVES treats.
I will put the cat treats next to the cereal and when I go to the kitchen for food, I will grab those instead.
I don’t know what it is about a big bowl of cereal at night, but I love it.
Maybe one night ever few weeks I’ll have cereal for dinner to feed my nighttime cereal monster.
Post # 11
Are you getting enough sleep? I’ve noticed that, even if nothing about my diet or workout changes, I lose only when I’m well rested. Something about my tired body clinging desperately to every last molecule of possible energy, maybe?
Have you told your Dad that his comments hurt your feelings and aren’t helpful?
Post # 12
@KatNYC2011: I did it to myself as well and still do actually. I always tell myself not to do it, but then I give in. I always feel guilty and angry afterwards as well.
I wish you the best of luck that you can push through those urges. I know how frustrating it can be.
Post # 13
@teaadntoast: He knows. Both my parents know their comments upset me. They always preface their conversations with, “I know you don’t want to talk about this” or “I know this will upset you”.
And I usually end up in tears at the end.
I’ve gotten very good at insisting with my mom that I will not talk about it. But it is much harder with my dad. I have always been “daddy’s little girl” and him being disappointed in me just destroys me.
I haven’t been sleeping well. I never sleep well when FI is out of town. But he’ll be out of town 75% of the time until the wedding.
Post # 14
What works for me at night is to brush my teeth everytime I get after dinner cravings. Toothpaste tastes nasty and brushing teeth sucks so you don’t want to have to do it again. It stops me from little munchies at night. Normally I would just eat a cheeto or whatever, but that cheeto would force me to brush again so it’s not worth it.
Idk if that makes sense, but it’s my logic.
Maybe choose something other than cereal because that’s a lot of carbs before going to bed?
I self sabotage daily to. bah
Post # 15
@PinkMagnolia: That doesn’t work for me because then the toothpaste taste wears off. Hahaha. Just saying.
Post # 16
@KatNYC2011: I certainly have used food to fill a void, so that rings true for me…have you thought of doing maybe a small stint of behavioral therapy sessions? I know that may be expensive, but it is just something that popped into my head.
I know how hard it is to quit the bad habits, but you can do it!!