- 7 years ago
- Wedding: February 2011
Ok so here’s the story: FI and I decided to get married in the BVI’s. It is where we lived, courted, where his family all lives. I wanted to get married on the beach, FI just wanted to marry me (he is a guy afterall).
So we started making the plan, we picked a date, the general beach we wanted to get married on, all that stuff.
When I first told my mom after the proposal I specifically said, that I and FI want to make all the decisions, that if we wanted her help I would ask for it. (No it isn’t mean! My first wedding, my mom took over and did things however she wanted which made a wedding I didn’t love). She was ok with that.
Well in the last couple of weeks they have met FI (he arrived in the states last week), and now my mom is trying to take over! Right before FI got here we ordered the STD cards, and I just needed the addresses from my mom to start sending them out. By talking with him she has decided he doesn’t want to get married in the BVI’s, so we should just do it in the states on a beach of her choosing. Now truth be told, FI doesn’t want to go back to the BVI’s for the wedding (he doesn’t care at all about a wedding, just wants to be my husband, but he will do it wherever I want, gotta love him!) What is important to him though is that it is all low-key! It is important for me because I want his mom and kids there and they can’t come to the states.
Well let’s be honest, if I let the wedding happen in the states, it won’t be low-key! I just can’t, too many people, too much stuff… and really let’s try planning a wedding on the beach in 5 months!
The other night I asked my mom for the addresses and she said, first we need to sit down and have a talk about this wedding, ummm NO WE DON’T, the couple have decided, you have NO say! Then last night, she told me about the conversation with Nordstorm’s she had, that’s where her dress is coming from. So the lady asked when the wedding was (because they lost her dress) and she said February unless they move the date up. HELLO we picked the date BUG OFF!
I am just so angry and hurt, because she has to know how I feel, FI knows how I feel (cried in his arms the other night), why can’t she just let it go, show up in the BVI’s when it is time and be done with it. We are having a welcome back party when we return and I told her long ago she could plan that however she wanted.