I know everyone has a dysfunctional family..

posted 3 years ago in Family
Post # 3
499 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

NY to CA is far.  Can you do a little party for them, vow renewal of sorts?

My grandmother is not frail but dosn’t like travel….250 miles is going to be tough on her.  My other grandparents are a bit tougher, but they don’t fly….they even drive down to Flordia for their snowbird behavior.  I’m glad it’s drivable.  They are more or less like your grandparents…not with their kids, but with their grandkids definatly.   They love us, will shower us with attention when we are close…but more or less forget about us for the rest of the year.  For those of us who live far, it’s hard.

Perhaps your family isn’t handling it best, but 3000 miles, is typically alot for older people.

Post # 5
499 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

@thehappiestbridetobe:   I’m betting its probably not you that is upsetting them, but seeing their parents get older.  My parents are really fit, but its upsetting to see the signs.  It’s hard to see my grandparents age, and I know seeing her mom slowly loose abilities is REALLY, REALLY emotional for my mom.

My grandmother is native american and wanted to go to the vatican when the first natie american saint was cannonized (recognized by the Catholic Church).  She’d saved and prayed for 20+ years to do so. I cannot accurately describe to you the pain my mother went through when she let my grandmother know that it probably wouldn’t be a good idea.

You are dealing with your own disappointment, and to you it seems very vague and crazy that your parents don’t have an answer.  But sometimes there isn’t one.  Sometimes it’s very hard.

So who knows.

Post # 6
9859 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: May 2014

@thehappiestbridetobe:  I know how you feel and it sucks.  Family drama is a complete pain in the butt at any time but when it comes to weddings it’s 1000 times worse.

Hopefully they decide to suck it up and come.

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