I know he has the ring, why won't he do it?!

posted 3 years ago in Waiting
Post # 3
42 posts
  • Wedding: February 2015

Maybe he has some big, grand plan he has been working to surprise you with when he executes the proposal, since you already know about the ring. My sister and her fiance ring shopped for a year before he popped the question! Best of luck that he doesn’t wait much longer, the wait is maddening, but will be worth it! Smile

Post # 4
271 posts
Helper bee

argh! how frustrating! have you spoken to him about it? he might have a perfectly acceptable genuine reason as to why he hasn’t proposed yet. maybe he is waiting on a significant date, a holiday or might even want to live with you for a few months first. unfortunately you won’t know until you ask.. sit down and talk to him or else you’ll drive yourself crazy. good luck sweetie and let me know of any progress! 🙂 

Post # 5
1241 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2015

@Redapple89:  I know your frustration.  My SO has had my ring since February,  and has promised to propose by February,  but I had to drag that out of him as he didnt want me to know that. I am emotionally a wreck about it even though logically I get why he’s waiting. Still, its frustrating. 


Post # 6
7630 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: January 2013

Have you talked to him about it? I mean talking directly as jokes or off-handed comments usually don’t work. What does his timeline look like?

Post # 7
6812 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2014

Ask him! He’s bought the ring, there’s no secret. At the end of 2011, my FI said, “this is the year, 2012, that you and I will get engaged.” I thought he was just spewing up ideas, I didn’t think he was serious (didn’t know he had the money saved for a ring) and then in Nov of 2012, he proposed! He said he had a ring he COULD have proposed with in Oct of 2011, but decided that wasn’t the right timing.

Just relax, you know he has a ring, you know you two are getting married, you know you two are buying a house – just enjoy this moment and don’t get so caught up on WHEN he’s going to do it, because it’s pretty clear he’s DEFINITELY doing it!

If you want to start planning a wedding, I bet he wouldn’t say no even though you don’t have a ring yet.

Post # 8
1355 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2013 - Vine Street Church

My fiance had my ring for a year and a half before proposing. I think he just wasn’t completely ready because he’s younger than me. I knew we were going to get married, so it didn’t matter, but waiting was still kinda shitty.

Post # 9
1157 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2014

He is probably waiting for a specific date. If the wait is killing you, ask him.

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