Post # 1
Someone at work today asked me when my Bachelorette Party was. Well, I’m not having one. I didn’t think I really wanted one, but… I guess I am feeling a little down I’m actually NOT having one.
We are going to Vegas for the wedding which is 7 weeks away, so if anyone was going to do something for me I’m sure they would have told me by now. None of my friends around here (who I all invited to the wedding but none are coming) have offered to do anything.
A woman I work with is also getting married, she just had her Bridal Party but invited people herself and I thought that was extremelly tackey.
I guess I just feel down that none of my friends think enough of me, I tried to even get people together for a girls night and the excuses I heard were unbelievable. Of course these are the same people who couldn’t be bothered to check NO on their RSVP and put it in a pre-stamped envelope and send it back. *sigh*
I am seeing that when it boils down to it, I really don’t have any close dependable friends except my FI!
Heck, Fiance has a chance to have two bachelor parties. Friends of his around here want to take him out and then he’s going out the night before (no, I’m not excited about this) when we are in Vegas. Two nights of strippers. *rolls eyes*
And I can’t even get some people together for a little girl’s night. *sigh*
So what I am planning on doing instead is taking myself out the Wednesday night before we are leaving for Vegas and getting a mani/pedi. Maybe I can find someone between now and then who would want to go with me.
Oh and I guess I forgot to mention there is no bridal party. My Fiance actually joked that we should be taking each other out because it’s just us! lol
Post # 3
Aw sorry to hear you’re feeling left out! I had a similar experience when my Darling Husband and I were having our pre wedding festivities. Hang in there. Do something nice for yourself, and remember that your husband will be your family now.
Post # 4
I hate that etiquette. I bet a lot more brides plan their own showers and b parties but don’t step forward because someone high and mighty will stamp them with a tacky sticker.
If you want to throw a get together at the bar or club with your friends then do so. Buy your own drinks, accept free drinks if someone offers, and have a good time. I don’t see anything wrong with it.
Of course, the Emily Post and Miss Manners experts will say in stuffy british accents that it is “very unacceptable behavior for a bride to throw her own parties because that’s what the books say!”
No offense to british people. I always read etiquette with a british accent in my head. I don’t know why. 🙂
Post # 5
Lol, I’m British and I’m throwing my own Bridal Party party! And I love it that way. I decide where we go, who comes and who pays what. There’s nothing wrong with it, and if you want one, do it! If they’re crap friends, take yourself out (maybe with mum/sister?) and do something lovely for yourself. Don’t let yourself feel down about it. God, there must be a million fantastic things you could do in Vegas yourself the night before your wedding. Don’t focus on those who make you feel bad and think about what you can do for you.
Hope you feel more positive soon x
Post # 6
Well I did try to get some friends together under the “Girls Night Out” and couldn’t even arrange and I heard some really poor excuses. None of my friends likes to commit to anything I guess, LOL.
I don’t want anyone to feel obligated to bring me a gift, I just want to spend some time with people.
I think it’s hilarious how the guys have the Bachelor Parties all planned out, and have for like weeks. (Well not much planning involved) and you ladies know how men are about planning things! No time was wasted getting that all together. hahah!
Post # 7
I am sorry! I may be in your situation soon and will probably throw my own GNO instead. That’s the point of a Bridal Party anyway right? I think when it comes down to it, it won’t really matter who plans as long as all the girls and I have a fun night out together. Lol…. I also read those books in an English accent.
Post # 8
I’m sorry you’re feeling down!! I don’t think I would have had anything if it weren’t for my sister throwing me things. My BM’s have been less than stellar and I don’t have a lot of other girlfriends that would have done anything for me either. That sucks that they wouldn’t even get together for a girls night though…but…is there a possibility they’re throwing you a surprise party?
Post # 9
Where are you getting hitched in Vegas. We did our thing last weekend- would love to share some ideas- feel free to PM me.
Post # 10
- Wedding: November 2011 - Florida Aquarium
I understand– I never really wanted bridal shower, but now that the time has come, I’m sad I won’t have one. For my “bachelorette,” four close friends (three BMs) and I will be going out for a fun night after my rehearsal dinner (two nights before my wedding). They’re all out of town, and I’ve made it clear I don’t expect much. I just want to have fun… not to “celebrate my (almost) last night of being ‘single,'” (I haven’t been single in six years), but to celebrate being with my closest friends, who I don’t get to see nearly enough!
Post # 11
@Mrs. Gremmlin: Me too! The whole “one last night of freedom” thing bothers me anyway. A nice night of fun is what I was looking for. I don’t get it, I haven’t been single since I got together with Fiance why would I need to celebrate being single?
Post # 12
1. i dont think you are selfish.
2. i love your username! Twilight reference?
Post # 13
@dynamic_duo: Thanks! And Yes lol!! I was big into Twilight before I got together with my Fiance. (It kept me sane in my singledom) Started out as Team Edward, ended (still am tho) Team Jacob! 😉
Post # 14
You’re not alone, I’m not have a bachelorette either. I wasn’t expecting one since I don’t have any bridesmaids, but I have to admit that I feel a little down occasionally when I think about my fiance’s bachelor party. His brother and a few other friends are throwing it for him, and I know he sometimes feels a bit guilty that he’ll have that experience and I won’t.
Post # 15
I’m sorry you’re feel bad about this. My Maid/Matron of Honor did nothing to plan mine, but luckily two of my Bridesmaid or Best Man stepped up- and wouldn’t you know it, Maid/Matron of Honor was complaining the entire time (how much it costs, who isnt responding, which bars we went to). I think it might have been a lot easier to plan my own, so that one Bridesmaid or Best Man wasn’t stuck doing everything while the Maid/Matron of Honor got the credit.
If I were you, I would treat myself to a spa day, maybe even in Vegas while the Fiance is out with his “lady escorts” 🙂 Just remember that in the end it doesn’t matter what happens before, all that counts is that you will be married! I know you know that, but sometimes it’s nice to hear.
Post # 16
@crayfish: I understand everything is extra, and I’m not asking people to bow down to me like I am a freaking Queen or something.