I know I'm not the only one but ranting anyway!

posted 2 years ago in Emotional
Post # 2
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

We had over 100, it suckss. It’s so easy idk why people don’t get it. We also weren’t going to have family kids invited, but by the end we just gave in. 

Post # 3
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

MissGatitas:  You are definitely not alone…… out of 530 people, we only got 320 who rsvpd. And we are also having a Adult Reception which has caused a few people to get pissed off at FI and FMIL. 

Take a deep breath. The RSVPs are by far the worst part. Once that’s done, things will hopefully go much more smoothly 🙂

Hang in there girl!!!!!!

Post # 6
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2014 - San Francisco, CA

I have a friend-couple who said they got invited to a wedding and immediately chucked the RSVP card in the trash. I told them that was bitchy, and they responded that the envelope for the RSVP was completely blank – no address, no stamp. Oversight of the bride? Mistake at the printer’s? Who knows. I told them that made it 10% less bitchy but they still should’ve tried to get in touch. RSVP time is stressful.

 

Sorry you’re going through this, OP. Hope some of the responses just got delayed!

Post # 7
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

It’s becuse we live in this great age of communication where no one communicates anymore.  I feel like 15 years ago this wasn’t an issue, maybe I’m wrong.  I just feel like people used to take tiime to reply to shit and now the only communication is a like on FB.  So I say post your invite on FB, tag the people who need to respond and say like if you’re comming.

Post # 8
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2015

MissGatitas:  my FI has said that anyone who doesn’t RSVP will not be let in to our wedding. His best man has even agreed to be like a bouncer lol & it’s not a secret. We’ve told our guests, even our siblings & parents. They were like you know were going to be there & my FI said no if we’re giving you a stamped RSVP card, you need to send it back or you can’t come

Post # 9
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

MissGatitas:  51 invited guests haven’t replied?  WTF?!  Kids on rsvp’s when it’s an adults only affair?  WTF?!?!  Hey I’m totally with you lady… you have every right to rant.  Don’t feel like you’re suffering bridezilla syndrome.  People are darn rude with rsvp’s which I am learning first hand myself.

Post # 10
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

ErinEllen:  I wish we were having a bouncer!

Post # 12
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

MissGatitas: Not b*tchy at all… this is YOUR wedding and it should be YOUR way without having to justify YOUR decisions.

Post # 13
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

But I also feel that people including envelops with invites is a bit archaic.  A person should be able to RSVP personally when you see them, email, FB, whatever.  I think some brides dwell on their envelopes too much.  We asked people to RSVP by email and din’t have much trouble.

Post # 14
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

I experienced the same thing! About half of our guest list did not RSVP. It was really irritating to us, especially because many of them were married and newly married so I would think they would understand. We just started following up with everyone on the RSVP date after the mail arrived (after receiving no RSVPs in the mail that day). It hurt our feelings because we had postcard rsvps (so no need to even stick in an envelope and lick) and we looked forward to checking the mail each day only to find few responses. You’re not alone!!! 

I know you didn’t ask for advice, but since I went through this recently, I would start following up asap, and unless it’s someone you’re really close with who has verbally told you they are coming, I would mark down anyone who doesn’t get back to you as a “no.” Good luck!

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