Post # 1
I love my bf to death he is such a good guy and gets super excited about the wedding talk, if it were up to him we would have the whole thing planned which is great but we are not engaged yet.. I mean I know its coming I know he already bought the ring… My only issue is I rather wait till I am engaged to start planning everything.. we went to a travel agent the other day he wanted to go ask questions about destination weddings.. and the lady was like all excited telling us about packages and I felt silly being there what are we doing? Lets wait till it happens and then we can plan everything he already made ANOTHER appointment with her wants to go over other things and I will be mortified if she ask specific question about the engagement and I have to be like well um we are not engaged.. Do any of your guys do this… Am I being dramatic by caring so much like I said I know the ring is purchased… I don’t know what do my bees have to say?
Post # 3
You are not being dramatic at all. I think it is strange to plan a wedding when technically there is no wedding to plan. Tell you boyfriend you feel uncomfortable planning an wedding that technically is not in the works. Tell him you are uncomfortable at the travel agent. If he cares about you he wouldn’t want you to feel uncomfortable. Maybe he just doesn’t realize this is indeed wierd. If you know he bought the ring… what the heck is he waiting on? Maybe telling him how you feel “communication” will get things moving along.
Post # 4
@2ndtime: yeah we talked about it I said I am sorry you are going to have to cancel that apointment I don’t feel right going he said he was sorry he understands he’s like sorry I just get excitied and I can’t wait to marry you… and about the whole ring thing lol trust me I did ask him he says “its coming doing ruin it” sooo I am trying to wait.. I guess he has a specific thing planned.. we shall see…
Post # 5
I felt this way in february (right after coming to the decision that “well we should just get married this year”) and that threw any engagement out the window (not that I care much about the engagement period but I was expecting a surprising proposal for years even though we knew we wanted to be together and would get married some day.
I bought my dress and all right after that decission, and just this week we purchased a stone and I found out he already purchased a setting and it’s AT HOME! It’s no surprise that a ring is coming now but I have no idea what ring he chose and how he’s going to spring it on me and on top of that he walked out of the jewellers WITH the setting while I was with him (hid it in his sock under his pants which is so hilarious and surprising already when he confessed it to me after we bought the stone together)
Before I knew he bought the setting we were at the mall looking at mens bands, and then I went over to look at the TACORIs (because I thought he was still ring shopping) and the associate was kinda confused that we were trying all the wedding bands on and told her we set our wedding for this year. I asked to try some rings on and she was a bit taken back when she said “Oh so you’re looking for engagement rings too? ” and I told her yes.
It is all a bit weird, but everyone’s different, I’m just super happy to be with someone who loves me as much as my Fiance does and I can’t wait to be married to him.
While you plan your wedding now and until you get an official proposal to say “I’m engaged” and show off the ring there will be awkward moments perhaps but that shouldn’t stop you from going about your planning, it’s great to see your fiance is already looking into booking the destination wedding and planning! 🙂