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Well...can you afford to buy a new dress? Kleinfelds is pretty expensive. If you can afford it and don't mind spending the extra money, then go for it, but otherwise, I think it's probably a mistake to keep the appointment.
There is so much inspiration and so many beautiful things out there, that it's really easy to keep changing your mind and second guess yourself out of any decision you've made. Sometimes it's best to put on the blinders and stop looking.
Could you post a picture of yourself in the dress? It might help to get some feedback from other people.
Yeah post a pic that will help us Help you.
@AutomneMarie--that's definitely another consideration, the cost. If I did find a dress that I loved, I would see if it was possible to switch my deposit at my bridal salon to use it to order a new dress. But I feel like I should be really budget conscious at Kleinfeld's and only look at dresses that are under my budget, not "just one or two hundred over," since I know salespeople try and get you with that.
Here's my attempt at posting a picture...the sample dress is two sizes too big, hence the poor fit--and please excuse the tan lines!
I did that--i bought my dress for $400, then went to a really nice, fancy store ($5,000 dresses) just for fun. I knew I could never let myself spend that kind of money on a dress (my money, not my parents...it makes me more frugal lol) so I did it for fun. i just knew it wasn't going to happen so I figured why not, try them on. But if you're tempted to pay for it, well....that's another story.
@ejs4y8-I kinda do just want to look for fun, since I originally had an appt at Kleinfeld's and cancelled it after I found my dress. So maybe I just miss trying on dresses?
Okay I hope this picture comes out larger, and I apologize in advance if it's GINORMOUS. I can't seem to get the hang of uploading pics...
Woozers, that's a gorgeous dress. I love it. What kind of fabric is that?
I think your dress is beautiful! :) I love the neckline and the color is really flattering. Is there anything specific you're hoping to change? You can always change the feel with your accessories.
Okay I LOVE your dress! and I don't generally like shiny dresses.... its so classy! I think its just beautiful on you, even too big!
I was IN LOVE with my dress and stayed away from bridal stores anyway, and about 2 months before my wedding, went to a bridal show and happened to browse a sample dress sale there and saw one dress I loved...it was $400, a steal for a very pretty Maggie, in my size, and I was soo tempted...but that was $400 more on top of the dress I already bought - so I snapped out of it, and rocked my first dress and loved it. I cannot even remember what that maggie looks like now, to be honest.
In retrospective, my situation involved a relatively low price, but what if that happens to you, esp with Kleinfelds, imagine what might happen? It's definitely your decision, but prepared to find yourself facing more decisions if you decide to go.
I love your dress, it's perfect in its simplicity! I would cancel the other appointment, unless you're after a completely different style, but for a simple, classy gown, I'd say this one is definitely a keeper.
Keep that dress! It's gorgeous!
By the way, I'm already a 2 dress bride and I STILL don't love my dress! I just have such a hard time making decisions!
Your dress is absolutely gorgeous. I am envious. I think buyers remorse is very normal. Do not make any decisions at Kleinfield's today. Come home and try on your dress or go to the store where it is and try it on. Three months after buying my dress, I went to another store and tried on a bunch more, I even found one I loved. But when I retried mine on, I knew it was the one. So go, have fun, but re try yours on before you make any decisions.
@honeybun--I hear ya! I am SO indecisive, especially when it comes to wedding stuff.
@cheerful- thanks! I think it's satin fabric.
@krissycake- you're totally right, finding a new dress would involve a most likely significant price increase in the cost of my dress. I'm lucky enough to have a FI who said that I should do what makes me happy and is okay with my getting a new dress if I really feel like I need one, but I definitely feel guilty at the thought, and if I do go, I think that the guilt will make it difficult for me to actually purchase anything new. At the same time, I kind of feel like I need to look one more time in order to KNOW that this is the dress I want...
@April Bride, OttawaBride2011, CorgiTales, AutomneMariee--thanks for the kind words :) You guys are awesome!
Uhm, yeah, that dress looks fantastic on you! I say don't look any more.
That dress is GORGEOUS on you!
However, you have to be happy with your dress. I think you should keep you appointment go and have a ton of fun (Don't buy) but then come home and think about your decision and try on your dress again.
After I found my dress I slept on for 2 more months while trying on dresses and being a "Free Agent" but every dress I tried on made me realize mine was THE ONE! You never got to do that because you were rushed into the purchase.
I hope that you fun at Kleinfeilds today and it reassures you that that gorgeous dress you own is the one!
First, I love, love, love your dress! You look fabulous in it!
I totally know what you are going through though... I am absolutely in love with my dress, but for whatever reason I seem to enjoy torturing myself and contstantly look at other dresses and wonder if I should have gone in a different direction. But, once I put my dress on, I immediately fall back in love and know I made the right decision.
So I say... go, have fun, try on dresses and you will either find the one or you will learn that the one you have is the one! :)
I think your dress is beautiful and looks great on you. Unless you have a lot of money to throw around, I wouldn't keep looking at other dresses.
I think it depends on your attitude about wedding dresses. If you have the feeling that there is a dress out there that is "the one", and don't feel that your dress is the one, then you should go and keep trying on dresses. I would advise to not try on dresses that you can't afford though. Kleinfelds is expensive, so that may be an issue. I think it'd be worse to find "the one" and not be able to get it.
For me, I went into dress shopping a more of a financial decision. I had a set budget and didn't try dresses on that were more than my budget. I'm not a huge dress person, so I picked my favorite dress that fit the budget. I didn't feel like it's "the one" but I really like the dress, it's flattering, and I know I will look beautiful in it on my wedding day. I also like knowing that I have my dress, and don't have to try to get to sample sales, and go to a bunch of other dress places and keep trying on dresses. Having it done, and within my budget, is a great feeling.
Your dress is absolutely grogeous on you! I say keep it and no more doubting your choice:)
@di5308-You're definitely right, and I don't know that I am the sort of person to have "that feeling" about ANY dress. I'm not a crier, so I don't think I'll ever be one of those girls who tears up when she sees herself in a dress and knows it is the one. Your way of thinking was how I decided on this dress--it fit my budget and there was nothing about it that I didn't like.
@Future Mrs. Martin, Carbon Girl. SandS417-I think that's exactly what I'm going to do! Go to Kleinfeld's, have fun trying on dresses, but definitely make NO decisions until I get home and try on my dress again. I'm so glad to hear that you all had similar experiences and ended up loving your original dress :)
I'll definitely come on later tonight and let you all know how the trip goes! If nothing else, I think it'll be fun to go to Kleinfeld's. Maybe I'll see Randy--I LOVE him!
I love that dress on you! But it's about what you think and how you feel. A couple of days ago, probably after hearing my newly engaged cousin was going dress shopping, I looked at a picture of my dress and started doubting the decision. Then I remembered how much that dress made me smile and feel sassy. So I think it is normal to doubt yourself....if you go, remember to keep away from the out of the budget dresses, no matter how tempting they are!
OMG! Your dress is stunning! Seriously! Stick with the one you have.
I really love that dress on you. I know I had second thoughts about my dress, wondering if it really was The One. Honestly, I think it's kind of normal, especially for people like us, who spend a lot of our time online drooling over other people's weddings. Seeing so many beautiful dresses made me wonder if I had made the right choice. However, all those feelings went away once I tried on my dress again. I realized that I really did love my dress and that it was right for me. I think trying on more dresses would have just confused me more.
However, if you think you can go and just have a good time trying on dresses, then I say go for it. Let us know what you think!
I love your dress!
I think it's totally normal to have second thoughts about the dress. I totally did and beat myself up for months. but then, on the wedding day, my dress felt perfect again. I think it's just the stress of thinking everything has to be 'perfect' and so you agonize over everything that you CAN change, you know? But I would def not recommend going out & trying on dresses. Once you get the dress you have fitted and slip it on for your wedding day, you'll love it!
Okie doke ladies, I am back from my kleinfeld's appointment, and happy to say that I am now 100% sure that I love my dress and it is the one for me!
I tried on about 10 dresses, and did not like a single one! Maybe my consultant was just pulling out bad styles for me, but I didn't find anything that I would have considered even if I didn't already buy my dress. I'm feeling so happy and relieved, and feel so excited about MY dress now :)
Thanks for all your advice--you all were totally right-my dress is the one! :)
Glad you're sticking with that one, because that dress is motherf$%king amazing.
Haha, Nexus--thanks :) I had the same thought when I came home and looked at the pictures again!
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Hello everyone! Long time lurker, first time post-maker
I could use some advice!
So I already bought a dress that I really like. I bought it about two months ago, and I ended up buying the sample in the store, which made it significantly less expensive. I was happy to find a great dress at a good price. Done and done.
Howeeeever, since then, I've been having some buyer's remorse...I feel like I rushed into buying the dress--I bought it the same day I tried it on, didn't even sleep on the decision, and I think it's because the saleswoman pressured me by saying "Well it's a sample, it might not be here tomorrow, we can't hold it for you, the longer you leave it the dirtier it will get," etc. And I look at pictures of my dress and while I like it, I don't know if I love it.
Soooo on a whim, I went to the Kleinfeld's appt page and lo and behold, they had an appointment open for TODAY--which should be impossible, since they usually book like a month in advance. It seemed like a sign, lol, so I' going today to look at more dresses.
Is this the dumbest thing I could be doing? I know I"m not the first potential two-dress bride out there...